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Author Topic: Sexless in Seattle (newly married)

June 28, 2019, 09:45:57 AM
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LonelyIN


I'm not really from Seattle, but it's catchy  :P

So I met this girl a few years ago, we dated, and eventually moved in and got married. Prior to this, no issues. Frequent sex, oral, anal, no limits. We had sex every visit, but she only came over twice a week. The problem...sexless. It's like literally we stamped the license and it was over. There was no honeymoon, she had to work. There are no kids.

Anything sexual is with the passion of taxes. Not one time has ever been initiated with her. She absolutely won't tell me any of her likes, interests, fantasies sexually. If I mention oral, it's 15 seconds followed by 'just finish in my mouth'. If I mention sex, she just says 'why don't you cum on my body'. She is new to the sexual realm, i.e. a virgin. I can't prove it, except that I broke her hymen and she's early 20's.

I've mentioned my frustrations, that we should see someone. She had went to the doctor, but they diagnosed it with some muscle contractions that make it painful. That doesn't explain the dating phase.

If I mention anything sexual, she'll completely ignore me. Or that we should see someone, she just says how selfish I'm being over wanting sex. On a day like Valentine's or birthday, with my initiative, she just gets on top and watches YouTube. After about 5 minutes, she basically taps out and gets off, and I'm not even warmed up at that point.

I'm absolutely going out of my mind. Outside of sex, things are great. She's romantic, cuddly, sweet, hard working, etc. I love being married, and if sex was regular, this would probably be a perfect marriage.

I'm not even into porn, yet I'm at the point where that's my only avenue. Or I divorce, months into a marriage.

July 03, 2019, 03:12:05 PM
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MATTNH


Oh dear, what a position to he in.

I am in a very similar position however my partner does not watch you tube then tap out 😔.

I think that it's very important that you set time aside and discuss how you are feeling and how it makes you feel.  Also let her have a chace to explain, you need to listen and not debate it back.

This way you will both know what's wrong and you can either work through it.  At least you will both know where you stand and how you are both feeling.

July 12, 2019, 08:45:51 AM
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Grower


That sucks, As you will see there are a bunch of
us out here living in sexless marriages. Get some
counseling and if she is not wanting anything like
you do, get out, and get on with your life. Good luck

July 15, 2019, 03:39:09 AM
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Brenda W


maybe try something more subtle.
sometimes logic and common sense doesn't appeal to the opposite sex. they may find it boring and nerdy.
the following method should work.
bit.ly/GetHerToBed

 

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