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Author Topic: Sex life with 2 year bf, love of my life

June 05, 2019, 03:56:49 AM
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When I first met him I wasn’t sure if I found him attractive physically, but I was attracted to his personality, he was kind, affectionate, honest, down to Earth, as I got to know him I loved his values, the way he talked about family, his loyalty. And then I did find him attractive, he is good looking, but there’s never been tons of sexual chemistry, not like previous one night stands I’ve had. And there was always problems with premature ejaculation so that made it a little harder, long heated satisfying good sessions were rare, I gave up expecting it. Now we don’t have tons of sex but when we do it’s either very loving or very unsatisfying for me. Im happy in this relationship and I love him but sometimes I think back to some of the best drunken one night stands I’ve had, and I miss it, but I’d never trade it for what I have. Everything else is so great, can I live with this part not being great? Can it improve over time? I love him I don’t want to give him up

June 26, 2019, 06:12:39 AM
Reply #1


You didn’t become attracted.......you settled.

This is only one of the fundamental reasons why 9’s shouldn’t date 5’s.  Another way to look at is on the scale from 1 to 10, there should never be more than a 2 point spread. 

I know it sound juvenile, but think about it.

Not to get too personal, but I’ve been with women on both sides of where i am and each side has its own set of problems. 

I’m not suggesting you leave him, but I’m suggesting you deal with reality first.  Then decide.

If you feel like you deserve someone closer to where you are on the scale, then you know what to do.

If you’re determined to make it work and you want to “improve” the situation..... then it’s time for a makeover.  Get him to the gym, buy some new clothes, get a new haircut or buy some hair, get a tattoo or 3, etc......

If you’re determined to make it work and you accept you’ve settled, then get over it.


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