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Author Topic: Rough Sex when Frustrated.. something wrong with me?

July 18, 2019, 05:06:16 PM
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FrustratedNJguy123


I have been with my wife for a long time.. we started dating as teenagers and been together now for 16 years.. I love her more then you can imagine, but for a while now I have been noticing our sex life has been on the decline.. I know it is somewhat normal, especially now that we have children.. but what I am noticing more now is that the longer we go between “encounters” the more frustration builds up.. I thought handling a “self release” would solve it, but it does nothing.. My concern is that i noticed that the more “frustration” that builds the more I don’t want a “love making” session but rather a rough session.. not to get into specific details, but i love getting head.. so when we go a while between having any sexual activity (more then a week) I notice my attitude changes.. I am easily irritated and just not fun to be around.. and then when she is finally “in the mood” she wants to cuddle and have a slow love making session, whereas I’m sitting there and all I can think about is her on her knees and me facef***ing her.. idk.. when in those moments all I feel is so frustrated with so much tension and I just want to face***k her and watch her gag on my c**k and finish down her throat.. I would never want to hurt her or anything like that, but in those moments I don’t know what comes over me.. I have talked to her about my frustration although not in specifics.. after talking she tries to take care of business but it only lasts for a few weeks, then it’s back to where we started.. I can also tell that she takes it as a chore and not something she is really into..

Anyway.. just wanted to reach out and see if anyone experienced anything like this or if there is something wrong with me..

July 20, 2019, 04:19:03 PM
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Bev41


Hey. I think you need to speak to your wife.  I get your post as I’ve been with my hubby 22 years and it does sometimes dull down, tell her what you want to do.   She may like it.   It’s one of those things though isn’t it when one has the higher sex drive than the other, it can be shit.
Hope you work it out 😎

July 23, 2019, 07:16:00 AM
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britneyj28


I also think you need advice / you can just discuss with your wife regarding same, try using old methods, hanging out for movies, going pubs, start with kissing, hugging and make feel of romance and start doing some intimacy this would really grab your both attention and make it feel do some foreplay touching, oral sex this would really help you out.
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November 24, 2019, 11:23:44 PM
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Maybe go with a prostitute I guess, but check for the stds after. Maybe your wife is all tired and will accept it if you check for STDs after. Or... you could try meditation together and recover your sensibility through tantric yoga and more "sensual" stuff that women are often more into, if you give it the way she would like it then she might allow rougher sex. Almost always women like to start slow but then if get rough they like it.

 

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