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January 08, 2019, 06:00:47 PM
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Recently found out about her past sexual encounters and I’ve kinda pushed her away from me over it. I find it to be disgusting.

And for that reason I don’t want anything to do with her anymore, am I being unreasonable ?

I have no desire to be with anyone who has been with multiple other partners, regardless if it was before I even knew them.

I do not like the idea of oral sex at all, I’ve never been on either The giving or receiving end of it.

But, it appears that she has, so she says anyhow. I won’t have regular intercourse without a condom, that’s just how I’ve always been, thoughts and opinions appreciated.

January 09, 2019, 11:18:20 AM
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Recently found out about her past sexual encounters and I’ve kinda pushed her away from me over it. I find it to be disgusting.

And for that reason I don’t want anything to do with her anymore, am I being unreasonable ?

I have no desire to be with anyone who has been with multiple other partners, regardless if it was before I even knew them.

I do not like the idea of oral sex at all, I’ve never been on either The giving or receiving end of it.

But, it appears that she has, so she says anyhow. I won’t have regular intercourse without a condom, that’s just how I’ve always been, thoughts and opinions appreciated.

Hey, welcome to the forums btw, how old are you may I ask? It doesn't mention it in your profile as you haven't filled out your details. 

I do understand where you're coming from but unfortunately we can't chase the perfect partner, but you need to decide whether you're able to deal with that persons past or not. Yes you can try and move on from it and forget it but ultimately it will always be there and it can't be erased. You need to ask yourself if you will be able to deal with it, mentally. If not, then it's probably not worth while even trying to pursue a relationship with this person and you will end up mentally hurt either way.

may I ask what they had done with previous partners that you don't agree with? You can be specific ... it's an anonymous forum after all :)

Also, it's common for people to have multiple partners before finding their true love. It's in fact, part of the process of finding the right partner as you learn from mistakes and you start to know who your really want after having some bad relationships.

I really wouldn't be worried about being with someone that has had partners in the past, it's normal. @User21

January 09, 2019, 05:12:27 PM
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I’m 38

She has had oral and unprotected with past relationships.

I’m 110% against both.

As I mentioned earlier, I’ve never participated in either and find it to be appalling.

January 23, 2019, 11:31:31 PM
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It’s hard, because I find a lot of people these days think if women sleep around or have slept around in the past they’re classed as a ‘slut’ where if men do they get praised. Speaking from passed experience I have never been in a proper committed relationship therefore I find it hard to ‘fulfill my needs’ and have slept with a decent about of people, some which I haven’t used protection!
That being said I have never had an sti/std, I have never felt in anyway like it would affect me getting a man either, I think you should maybe cut her some slack.

 

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