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Author Topic: Not Sexually Attracted To My Fiancee

December 26, 2019, 07:40:47 PM
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angelsmillenium


Hi everyone.

So I am going to be marrying the love of my life in a few months... But I am feeling extremely guilty to the point where I feel enough to shut myself in my room and search out advice...

Myself and my soon to be bride have known each other for a large portion of our lifetime... Only now are we getting serious. All of the time I've known her I honestly can say there were very few times that I found her attractive. Our sexual chemistry is rather non-nonchalant although she seems to have the hots for me more often than not, I honestly cannot feel myself reciprocating this. It's not that I am unable to perform but I do have issues with staying 'in the mood' and perhaps that may be a medical issue as well but the honest truth is that when I look at her I see 'LOVE' and not 'PASSION'. I love her for many reasons and I've decided I'll marry her but it's for 'LOVE' and not because we have amazing sex ... There have been times where I've just been put off because I can't see her in a sexual manner and I try to change the mood to something else.... I honestly feel freakin horrible because of this...

In my previous days, I was never a 'ladies man', but I had no shortage of lady friends who found me attractive. I've been with a few 'beautiful' women but as I grew older I found out that it wasn't the lifestyle for me. I wanted deep connections as opposed to sensual relationships. So I found everything I wanted in in my future spouse... everything but the sexual chemistry. Physically speaking, she honestly isn't my type. But that doesn't mean I don't love her. It just means that when I think about her, I don't find her sexually attractive... what am I missing, honestly?

I'm trying to become a better man. I've tried to keep my eyes off of other women who I find attractive and beautiful, hoping that if I somehow ignore them and focus on her, that things will change... but honestly I find myself staring one too many minutes long at certain women that I notice. I feel like it's a disservice to her, but being truthful, I enjoy the way women look and I find attractive women enjoyable to look at. It's a big issue for me. I want her to be the only one I look at and desire, but it's just not there.

I used to frequent porn quite often in my younger years, but not as much anymore. I'd say once or twice a week, if anything. Maybe my sexual drive just isn't there anymore, but it feels different when I'm in the street and notice a beautiful woman as opposed to when I am with my spouse. I thought maybe porn was another issue, so I've been trying to get rid of it steadily. I'm not exactly succeeding, but not as bad as I used to be.

So, please, if anyone has any advice for me going forward, I beseech you on my spouses behalf. How do I become a better man and start having sexual desire for my future wife?!?!?

January 09, 2020, 02:49:25 AM
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johnsonlucas922


Sexual attraction is induced by pheromones! being with someone you are not attracted to is alot of work, maybe all the good times, laughs and conversations would fade away because you are not satisfied physically, maybe you will look for satisfaction from another girl and that will hurt her more than confronting her with your feelings now.Forcing yourself to be intimate with someone you don’t find attractive isn’t good for your mental health so here you can do is to start watching roleplay sex together & you will attracted to fiancee physically she they show their curvy waist, big butt, big tits while watching porn from some  top paid porn sites http://toppaidpornsites.com ! It even truly make you horny my dear.
« Last Edit: January 09, 2020, 07:00:49 AM by johnsonlucas922 »

 

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