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Author Topic: Why cant he let go?

October 09, 2018, 11:48:27 AM
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eraluv


My boyfriend and i had been dating for 7 years and we ocassionally lived together betwewn my home and his. Recently i found out the he had been cheating on me for over a year and has even moved in with this other women on days he did not come to my place. He said hes sorry for hurting me and still loves me but when i asked him to leave the other women so we can work things out he said hes stuck in this relationship with the other women and he cant get out. We ate constantly in contact because of a legal issue we are currently sorting out. He comes over to my house hugs me and kiss me and tells me he wants to be with me intimately. When i ask him to leave the other women he keeps saying he cant choose. Im so confused cos i still love hin and i want to work things out but hes just not willing to cut ties with the other women. What do i do? Please help.

October 17, 2018, 05:26:06 PM
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missg


My boyfriend and i had been dating for 7 years and we ocassionally lived together betwewn my home and his. Recently i found out the he had been cheating on me for over a year and has even moved in with this other women on days he did not come to my place. He said hes sorry for hurting me and still loves me but when i asked him to leave the other women so we can work things out he said hes stuck in this relationship with the other women and he cant get out. We ate constantly in contact because of a legal issue we are currently sorting out. He comes over to my house hugs me and kiss me and tells me he wants to be with me intimately. When i ask him to leave the other women he keeps saying he cant choose. Im so confused cos i still love hin and i want to work things out but hes just not willing to cut ties with the other women. What do i do? Please help.

Don't bother speaking to him i think @eraluv

why should you bother with someone and put your effort into them when they're with someone already, and won't chose your over them? It should be an easy decision, by the sounds of it he's leaving you open as an option encase that relationship doesn't work out.

i wouldn't bother with him babe, as he can't be that serious about you and would you really be happy if he left another woman for you? he'll probs run back to her when you split up / and or cheat on you with her without you knowing

October 17, 2018, 05:38:08 PM
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eraluv


thanks for the advice im understanding that its better for me to move on from this relationship

October 17, 2018, 05:41:27 PM
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missg


thanks for the advice im understanding that its better for me to move on from this relationship

good girl i think thats probably best, there are plenty of other nice men out there that would put their heart and soul into you. you deserve better.

any other issues or questions let us all know! i love giving dating/relationship advice  ;D

December 11, 2018, 08:00:58 AM
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zerancaleb


Blinded with love is one of the factors why some can't able to let go with their partner. Acceptance of the fact that they have to let go, someone they love,  to be loved for how they wanted to be. We deserve to love and love truly without selfishness...and we can able to do that if we love ourselves first, enough to realize your value as a person, with that you will find the happiness that you deserve.

December 19, 2018, 11:04:27 PM
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NoviceNinja


The best thing to do is let him take his own medicine. Try to date other guys and ask him if the same situation is alright for him. If he says yes, he's fine with that kind of set-up, dump him. He's not sincere enough to settle down and have a future with you. All the best!

January 06, 2019, 05:12:08 AM
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ender644


The best thing to do is let him take his own medicine. Try to date other guys and ask him if the same situation is alright for him. If he says yes, he's fine with that kind of set-up, dump him. He's not sincere enough to settle down and have a future with you. All the best!

I have to agree with NoviceNinja. Seems to me like he's just trying to play you.

January 13, 2019, 04:27:36 PM
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winstonjack


Ignore his words. His actions speaks volumes. He doesn't have to choose. He has the best of both worlds and will keep on saying what needs to be said to keep you, while being with another. This is not complicated. If you want him to choose, you have to ignore him. No text, not calls, no invites...nothing. But if you keep acting as if you want him, you are feeding his ego.

January 16, 2019, 01:10:25 AM
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SR0710


Could be he has control issues or just plain loves you? Maybe he cant find somebody new to replace you?