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Author Topic: Why am I still in love with my ex bf even though he treated me terribly?

April 19, 2019, 12:48:42 AM
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I need help. I am still in love with my ex bf, even though I know he was terrible for me and I was not happy in the relationship. He was faithful (we both were), but he was so off and on with me. One day he'd tell me he loved me and wanted a future with me-- the next day he'd say he "wasn't sure" about the relationship. It was like this every day for months and it was exhausting. Every day I woke up wondering if that day was going to be the day he was going to leave me. I was terrified all the time. Truthfully, I wanted out of the relationship a while ago, but I was too scared to leave. I didn't want to be without him, even though I knew the relationship was toxic. He'd ignore me for days, sometimes weeks, and I'd almost have to beg him to talk to me or spend time with me. Then, out of the blue, he'd be all over me and want to spend time together. It was draining, but I'd fall for his trap every time. He was so wishy-washy and unfair to me and fed me lies and empty promises about not leaving and "working our issues out". He couldn't make up his mind about our relationship and dragged me on his leash with "I love yous" and "I'm not going anywhere", but those were only lies. He wouldn't even bother to come over or call me on the phone. I was not a priority. I felt like a possession he could throw away at any time.

He also has absolutely no motivation or drive. He never went to school and refuses to sign up (even though he told me he wants to better himself and go to college), he works a dead end job at a food industry with no opportunity for growth, he sleeps all day (until 6pm!!!!!!) and doesn't help his family with anything. He's irresponsible and always says "I'll do it tomorrow", but never does. It drove me insane. I had to pester him like mad for him to apply for the job he has now. It was so tiring constantly pushing him to do even the simplest things!

Anyway, the first time we broke up, he asked for me back 2 weeks later and, like a complete idiot, I reluctantly accepted, thinking he would change his ways. He didn't and I know it's my fault for giving him a second chance. He told me the exact same things he did before. "I love you", "I promise I'll never hurt you again", "I'm never leaving you again", etc etc etc. Just lies! I feel so stupid for believing him and letting him treat me just as he did before we got back together. I put myself through hell once again.

We broke up for the second and final time recently, but I unfortunately still love him. When I see his pictures on Facebook and Instagram, my heart still pounds in my chest as if it was the first time I saw him. I'm still attracted to him, but why? He was awful to me and played with my feelings, so why do I still love him? He's on my mind all the time and I just want this to stop. Any advice? Thank you for reading, I know it was very long.

May 08, 2019, 08:30:27 PM
Reply #1


It's not love . It's called EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT .

So you're losing your mind over a Loser ? With no ambition, who treats you like crap ?

Gurl, you derserve SO MUCH BETTER  !!

You'll never move on if you don't disconnect from him once and for all . Following on instagram won't help .
You'll have to DISTANCE YOURSELF from him in every way .One step at a time, but please, please,


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