Lets Chat Love
Register An AccountLogin

Author Topic: Stuck on an ex

January 01, 2019, 10:34:36 PM
Read 111 times
Offline

DannyBee


The title pretty much describes my past year experience.I’ve been on and off with this guy that I absolutely adore,we had a great healthy relationship for one year.But,the second year was all about breaking-up for stupid reasons and getting back together .BUT,I broke up with him this last time because he admitted he liked some other girl .He said he loves me but it would be unfair for me to stay with him so I called it quits.I was angry at him .I am pretty much devastated for the time being.
It’s been 6 weeks and the only message I got was Merry Christmas and a Happy new year.I didn’t respond.I am trying my best to ignore him even though i love him he just can’t commit.Btw,we’re both 20.
Why does my heart have such a hard time forgetting about him? Iam keeping myself busy but whenever im free all I think about is him.
Do you think this will pass over time? How much should I wait till i’m over him? The pain is sometimes unbareable...

January 02, 2019, 07:06:50 PM
Reply #1
Offline

missg


The title pretty much describes my past year experience.I’ve been on and off with this guy that I absolutely adore,we had a great healthy relationship for one year.But,the second year was all about breaking-up for stupid reasons and getting back together .BUT,I broke up with him this last time because he admitted he liked some other girl .He said he loves me but it would be unfair for me to stay with him so I called it quits.I was angry at him .I am pretty much devastated for the time being.
It’s been 6 weeks and the only message I got was Merry Christmas and a Happy new year.I didn’t respond.I am trying my best to ignore him even though i love him he just can’t commit.Btw,we’re both 20.
Why does my heart have such a hard time forgetting about him? Iam keeping myself busy but whenever im free all I think about is him.
Do you think this will pass over time? How much should I wait till i’m over him? The pain is sometimes unbareable...

I presume he is your first love/relationship @DannyBee? This will most likely explain why it's so difficult, heartbreak isn't nice but you will learn to overcome it and you will be mentally stronger afterwards. I remember my first hear break, it destroyed me.

I'm not relationship expert but I think you need to carefully think about what you want. If you want to try things again with him, then do so and don't ignore him. Be open to meeting up etc, but it won't be nice knowing you're essentially the second choice and he likes another person.

OR, learn to accept what's happened and try you best to move on. Block him on social media if you need too. That always works for me as my partners have lived  an hour or two away so the chances of running into them is quite slim

Keep us in the loop.

January 02, 2019, 11:29:24 PM
Reply #2
Offline

DannyBee


Why do you think he wrote me?
I told him i do not want him in my life anymore when we broke up.I did unfriend him on fb,unfollowed him yet he still follows me,watches every insta story etc.Is he over me?

January 03, 2019, 03:24:36 AM
Reply #3
Offline

winstonjack


Have you ever heard the saying we want what we can't have. It doesn't matter the gender - male or female -- if we are told we can't have something, we want it. That doesn't mean you don't have feelings for him but your graving makes it harder for you to get on with your life. And that is exactly what you need to do. The worse part, he knows you want him, believe me, he knows. He's in control. And men love being in control. When they are not, they fall to pieces. You have to show him you can go on with your life without him. Don't say it to him, don't wish it, DO IT - GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE.

Usually we are more attracted to someone whom ARE NOT AVAILABLE. Right now he is not available so you want him. So go get a makeover, go on dates, strut your stuff and either he will come back to you or you will start feeling so good about yourself you may forget him and find someone new.


January 17, 2019, 04:16:39 AM
Reply #4
Offline

Hopefulone


An elder that I highly look up to once told me that if you still think about that person even after staying busy etc you should write them and be cordial but continue to work on the relationship. Unless she tells you that she longer wants to be in contact you should follow your gut or heart. I believe love conquers all. Be respectful of any relationships she has but let her know you are there. I hope the best for you.