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Author Topic: Struggling with No Contact

January 06, 2020, 07:43:32 PM
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Does anyone know group that will help a person through the steps when they feel like calling..text...messaging..another words when someone is down and hurting??

January 08, 2020, 05:33:19 AM
Reply #1


just don't do it bro distract yourself

you got this

January 08, 2020, 05:49:57 AM
Reply #2

iris Hausswolf

Hi there,
im new here so not sure how this works.
im going through something similar myself, its REALLY hard not to reach out during no contact phase.
but it will pass in time, and you'll be glad you didn't message/call etc during this time. for your own sake and dignity, trust me there is nothing worse than reaching out during a time that you should really be thinking only about yourself. especially if during that time they feel like they are also not ready to reply or be in touch. So save yourself that pain/embarrassment.
I have been weak during times like these and just made me feel worse.
If you're finding it really hard, i'd delete their number but write the number down and give it to someone you trust. and only after the no contact period are you allowed to take the number back- by that point you'll probably not even be interested in reaching out to this person, or they'll have gotten back to you.
every time you feel like messaging or calling just pick up a book, play a game or do something that will require a lot of mental effort. even maybe try and teach yourself something new, that will take a lot of your focus and attention, and very little left to worry about whoever it is you're getting over.
you'll be okay, i promise you!

January 08, 2020, 06:12:09 AM
Reply #3


i'm in the same situation as you are. we just have to keep strong i guess and if you really need to contact her just write everything you want to tell her, aske her on a paper and then burn it.

January 08, 2020, 03:14:42 PM
Reply #4


I am struggling with no contact also, but I am determined to maintain it. My GF of 5.5+ years broke up with me just after Thanksgiving. In the 5+ weeks since, I have varied between no contact and trying to get her back. Now I am clear that she does not want me back so I am moving on. The easy part is blocking on phone/text. The hard part is dancing. She was my dance partner. I stopped going to dances but dancing brings happiness to my heart so I have decided to resume dancing even though she also goes. I decided to not communicate or dance with her even when she is next as a partner in a lesson or mixer dance. I did it Monday and it worked ok. I bypassed her several times. She looked unhappy but I do not care. I need to move on. If I dance and communicate with her, I will never let go and accept the end of the relationship.

January 08, 2020, 08:05:11 PM
Reply #5


theres a discord chat im on..

try this blog

it is FANTASTIC.. if you wanna be in the discord chat let me know

February 28, 2020, 10:14:24 PM
Reply #6


I feel you, it's really hard. My situation is a bit confusing. Instead of me going into "no contact" she told me to not contact her for two weeks. Now what does that mean? she wants me to move on? I acted like an idiot and treated her badly when i was drunk (left her alone crying at a wedding we were invited to, because i got mad at her..). Obviously i appologized to her and acknowledged my mistake and promised not to do anything like that. She just wanted me to forget her. We talked on the phone, she said dont kill the chances, just dont contact me for two weeks. I am really confused, any thoughts?


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