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Author Topic: Really really sad story. Can I win her back?

August 04, 2019, 12:12:00 AM
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Ok so here goes..

I was chatting with a girl in Brazil for 5 months. I finally flew to meet her and her family when they took a trip to Miami. I was so nervous to meet her so I started taking a medicine to calm me down. I flew from NYC to Miami to meet them and it was the best few days of my life- she became my girlfriend. My first kiss. I spoiled her and played guitar for her.

A few months later I flew to Brazil and stayed in their home for 2 weeks. Perfect. We all got along very well. One of the best 2 weeks of my life. Then the girl came to stay in my home for two weeks. Maybe I started seeing that she had a little bit of an anger issue, but it was still amazing. My first love.

I found out that her parents are kind of abusive. They always call her lazy and ignore her for dumb things. She is a civil engineer and has a job on the side too. Anything but lazy. I found out that her mom hits her sometimes and the parents are getting divorced because the dad hit the mom once for hitting the daughter. So the mom became pissed once when I tried defending her on WhatsApp saying how hard she works. I know it wasn't my place, but I think that I medicine made me too confident. The mom would get angry if I said to have a great Sabbath too close to Sabbath... or too early before Sabbath. She would check my WhatsApp to see what time I would wake up and call me lazy. (Last seen at 10am)

Then came a lot of drama because of dumb Facebook jokes. Like the mom posting a pic of her daughter and then I would be like "ehh she's ok". Its a joke! They were rooting for Brazil in some soccer game and I posted a pic of Switzerland.. stupid joke. Also some religious things they were attacking me on. If I sent my gf a funny adult meme.. the mom would text me that Im perverted. It became very bad, but then I flew back to Brazil and everything was good as new. I really got along with them in Brazil. Then I left...

The girl asked me to shave everywhere... so in a video I was telling her about my day and said, "O and I shaved my pubes" (I pulled my pants down) Of course, the mom saw the video for some reason and told the entire family. They started shunning me and they started putting her through hell. They ignored her. They threatened not to go to her graduation. They ignored her on her birthday. They didn't go to her final engineering presentation. They started making fun of the weight I put on. Some cousin in the family reads peoples energies, and he saw my energy that I was lying about being a virgin. This scared her parents... It was hell.

I made a fake account as a priest and I emailed the father an anonymous letter saying that its important to treat your kids well. That kids will leave religion if they aren't treated well. I didn't tell the girl. For weeks I lied to her and she thought it was Above trying to help her. Her parents realized it was me and I confessed. After a strong apology letter to her father, she said that if I come to Brazil and apologize in person, he would forgive me.

One day I wanted to snoop so I went into her Facebook. She always went into mine so it wasn't a big deal. I saw how bad her mom was speaking about me and I went crazy. She attacked me on everything... my weight, lazy, fake religious, perverted.... I then started taking so much more of that medicine and it made me very impulsive. I stopped sleeping because I was so afraid this woman would ruin my life. I tried contacting the moms family members on Facebook for help. I started talking to someone who said she was family but she turned out not to be. This person lives in Brazil and said she could help because we started talking a lot about family issues. She sent the mom a really nasty letter saying she abuses her daughter and her daughter should leave her. That she calls everyone lazy even though she doesn't have a job. They knew it was all because of me. IT WAS THE DUMBEST THING I EVER DID. I DONT KNOW HOW I DID THAT! I hope it was the medicine because wow! How stupid was that.

I lost the love of my life. I didn't take the breakup too well. I tried going in her accounts which was wrong. She blocked me on everything and I made fake accounts to try to talk to her. I messaged her from different phones. She called me to tell me that she doesn't love me anymore. Now I live with the pain knowing that I lost her to my own stupidity. I really got along with the family in Brazil, but whenever I left, they would turn on me. This girl fought for me, and I always let her down. Its 7 months later and Im drowning in depression. I miss her like hell every day. She was my first love and I can't move on. I want her back so much. I really changed. I don't want to be this sneaky liar. I can't live with myself and I miss her so much. So much. The pain doesn't fade.
« Last Edit: August 04, 2019, 12:25:06 AM by swissambush »

August 04, 2019, 06:32:32 AM
Reply #1


From your message it feels like you are in your early 20s.

Don't worry, really, break up is not the end of your life.

Learn from your mistakes, you will find other girls in your life in the future, don't make the same mistake with them :)!

And stop pursuing this girl, of she doesn't want to talk to you, give her some space.

November 21, 2019, 11:44:27 PM
Reply #2

neha tripathi

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December 21, 2019, 02:45:55 PM
Reply #3


I know the feeling.... I've been going through this as well. After 3 months of texts and phone calls, I was beginning to think that it was over for me. Then, when I gave it two weeks no contact, she started texting me again. Then, we met up for the first time in months.

My advice is to go no contact. If she contacts you, definitely respond kindly, but do not contact her. This is the most difficult thing to do when you love someone and want to share your life with them, but it is necessary.


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