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Author Topic: Please help me let him down slowly

January 16, 2019, 05:47:52 AM
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RareINFJ


A man has fallen in love with me - and even told me so, but we can never be together. We were team mates and tried having a relationship, but he destroyed it with criticism and harsh judgement (and said terrible things I will not repeat on here).
I put on a brave face for work but I was crushed and can never give him my heart.
However, we are good friends and enjoy each other's company. Though he hurt me, I do not want to do the same to him.
I cannot be with him, but am terrified of breaking his heart. He does not attract women easily and I do not want him to give up just because he can't be with me.
Please tell me how to let him down gently.

January 17, 2019, 09:50:50 PM
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SR0710


The gentlest way is the quickest. Slowly will make it worse.

Explain the situation to him walk away and dont look back.

February 03, 2019, 02:36:57 PM
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ihcihcnom


I agree, it's better to be direct but gentle.

March 12, 2019, 05:23:52 PM
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libra_moon


You're so sweet for thinking about him when he has hurt you in the past, it just shows that you have a big heart. There is no gentle way to reject someone unfortunately, I would just tell him that because of the past, you don't want to put yourself in a situation to be hurt again. Don't make it about him so he feels like he's not worthy of you, make it more about yourself and how you are not ready.