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Author Topic: Our engagement has been called off.

July 30, 2018, 09:02:39 AM
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hillofhell


My fiance is a Colombian woman and she indeed has what it takes to become a lifetime partner. I was certain to marry her since the moment I laid my eyes on her. I just can’t understand why she called the engagement off that easy. We have been through a lot and breaking it off is the last thing I have in mind. Do you think it was reasonable for her to do that? She didn’t explain to me, which is why it’s so hard to accept.

July 31, 2018, 03:13:26 AM
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all-mad-here


Breakups are hard at any time, but it's especially hard when you're already engaged...I'm so sorry for your breakup.

For a woman to break an engagement without explanation does seem unusual to me - I tend to be the explainer in my relationship, and if something was very wrong in our relationship, I'd certainly tell him what it was! If you're still on speaking terms, maybe appeal to her for an explanation, as it'll help you obtain closure in the relationship. Having obviously cared for you very much in the past, she likely still has feelings of some sort and will not want for you to be in pain. Of course, she may need some time before she's ready to talk about the breakup - be sensitive about when to ask, and try not to be overbearing.

And then, there's the possibility that she'll refuse to ever explain her decision. I hope that's not the case for you. But if she's determined to keep it to herself, there's unfortunately very little you can do about that. If that happens to be the case...commit to finding a partner in the future that you communicate with very freely, so that hopefully you won't find yourself in a similar situation again.
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August 01, 2018, 02:54:38 PM
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Lissiel


I'm sorry to hear that, I know that's very hard for you. And we can't judge her too, why she called of the engagement for we don't know her reason. As for now, you don't have a choice if she won't tell you why she broke up with you. You have to be strong. But you can't wait forever for her to answer your questions. Sometimes if they can't us answer you, you just answer yourself why in order to have closure.

August 10, 2018, 06:42:52 PM
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sidica


I'm sorry about your engagement break up, certainly, I can't understand her motivation. I had a foreign relationship not so long ago, and when my exboyfriend mentioned that we should get married, I  disagreed. I couldn't handle the fact that he was a very jealous man and I told him many times how frustrating was for me to deal with this particular attitude, especially when he ended creating stories from the nothing. But he knew it, and we stayed together some more time to give it a try, but the situation never changed and that's why we broke up.
That's why I don't understand the motivation from your ex, maybe she panicked, or she realized she wasn't ready to get married yet. Independent from her motivation, my opinion is that you can try one more time to get answers from her but if it doesn't happen, is better to calm down your mind and let it go. I realize that everybody is different and for some reason, some people has problems to give explanations, they feel guilty, or even embarrassed for their actions and they prefer to escape from the situation instead of face it. It's unfair but it happens, in this cases the more you think about, the most you suffer. Eventually your feelings will calm down and you will be fine and with the time the reasons for her break up will not even matter.

August 11, 2018, 09:50:11 AM
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Corzhens


It's hard to accept because the reason was not explained to you. It was like going up and leaving you hanging in the air with the puzzle of what was on her mind to break off the engagement. And if I were you, I will try to pick up the pieces no matter how hard. Start again and charge it to experience. If you haven't read about the engagement of Rory McIlroy, he had won US golf majors when he got engaged to his girlfriend who is a tennis player. But a week before the wedding, Rory broke up with his fiancee. The public was not privy of the reason. Can you imagine the damage when everything was already prepared for the wedding and all the invitations were already sent out? If that can be a consolation to you, well, you are in a better situation.

 

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