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Author Topic: Me Ex of 10 years left me and I still think of him.... advice

November 25, 2019, 04:21:52 PM
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*LONG POST* A year ago, my ex-boyfriend and I broke up after being together for 10 years on and off. We were not engaged. For all those years, I took care of everything.  He said it was because he was unhappy and how he had to live with roommates for 4 years and tired of my secrets but he couldn’t afford to go half with me on rent because he bought non-sense stuff. He left me once for another girl and moved with her and her kids but would text me when they were together that he missed me, then it didn’t work out so, I allowed him to come back to me. We were together again for 6 years and yes he cheated after that and recently last year, he left me for a girl he met on Instagram, Lied to me and would go see her until I found out. At that time, I was pregnant and he said that he was unhappy and it was an unfortunate situation that we were in, but he’d be around. He never came around to any appointments or anything. He would text me asking if I’m ok and how I was but that’s it! In November of last year, he moved in with the girl he cheated on me with, we didn’t live together because I didn’t want to live with 3 other ppl. He had nowhere to go and moved with her. She is 8 years younger than him and she told me that he loved her and I needed to accept he finally found someone he didn’t want to cheat on and respected. She’s 24 and he’s 32. She has a good job as an RN and had her own place with a roommate. Well, when they were barely together he did talk to some other girl because she reach out to me last year, but I told her I’m not the gf anymore. The new gf found out and took him back, giving him another chance. The sad part is this in November the day after thanksgiving, I went to the hospital because I was in excruciating pain and I had an infection that spread. I called my ex and he was on vacation with his Gf 5 hours from me. He told me that to be calm and I’d be ok. He never checked up on me after. That night a few hours later, I lost my baby. He didn’t reach out until 2 days after telling me he was sorry and sad he wasn’t there for me and I ignored him. I felt so betrayed by him. He would text me every other day to check in on how I was doing, but I didn’t respond to any and he finally stopped. Since then we haven’t seen or spoken to each other. I see him or his gf still opening my Instagram stories I don’t understand why. We don’t follow each other but my page is public and so is his.  He left me? If he’s happy why worry about me? I go to therapy and have been for over a year, it’s a long process. A part of me still misses him and I want him to want me and I know that’s so unhealthy. I haven’t dated since and I am still heartbroken. Sometimes I cry. I miss him but he did me so wrong and I didn’t love myself something I’m learning to do. Why do men change for the next girl but still he looks at my stuff or maybe it’s the gf I’m not sure? She blocked me so she can be looking from his page. If it’s not her and its him, he’s happy then why is he checking on me through my Instagram story when he feels like it. It angers me he even takes her where we used to go.  The gf did try to talk to another guy who is mutual friends with us and I know because we have mutual friends but he has a gf and the gf of his told my ex-boyfriend that she met up with her boyfriend but he just said, “ok and thanks for the interruption.” he didn’t care she was trying to cheat on him. Anyway I still hurt but I know in time I’ll be ok. He always cheated on me, never respected me, but is supposedly changing for the next girl. He recently blocked me on Instagram and Yes I know because, when I type in a letter with his name he pops up and sometimes I click to see what he posts but I never open his story on Instagram. Advice how to not miss or worry about him anymore and let go and be ok that maybe I trained him to be better for her? It hurts to know that he is just being better for her and he never told me that he was sorry after 10 years just left me like I was nothing.

November 27, 2019, 02:43:17 AM
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So your story is alot like mine how is it that you deal with that my days are some what occupied with work but I get home where we were supposed to have our happy family and I just get this empty feeling in my stomach and cant help but think about everything and start just crying any advice would be much appreciated


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