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Author Topic: Longing for ex back

September 12, 2019, 06:41:28 PM
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sarah14


We dated for over 5 years and were just talking about getting engaged. I was completely devastated when he left me for another woman. I dated someone else too for 4 months and recently broke up with him because I couldn't stop thinking about my ex. I'm not sure whether he is still in a relationship or not. I'm afraid to look on his social media. I would love nothing more than to get back together, but he was the one who left me, and he hasn't reached out to me since. I know it would probably be best to just try to forget about him, but that is what I've been trying to do, and I just can't. I feel like he is the one for me. I just messaged him just to see how things are going for him because I figured I have nothing to lose, and I'm scared of how he's going to react. We haven't had any contact in 6 months, and the last time we talked did not end well. I guess what I want to know is did I do the right thing reaching out? And what if he still doesn't want anything to do with me? Any advice on moving on from such a long term relationship?

September 16, 2019, 01:43:31 AM
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chrishen


You should always pay  close attention to the actions of other people, which applies also to the "lack of" actions. In this case, if he still felt the same way for you, he would've reached out to you already. Often what also happens in situations like yours is you do reach out, and if he's single at the time or with nothing else going on, he might take advantage of the fact you feel the way you do in order to seek out physical pleasure, which will no doubt make you feel even worse.

The best course of action would be to move on and start being selfish by doing things for you and focusing on yourself entirely, so as to avoid becoming too codependent on others. Dating is fine, but keep it light and if they aren't inline with what you want or don't seem as good as your ex, then don't spend months dating them.

September 17, 2019, 12:00:11 PM
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heymck


Do you know why he left you?

Sounds like a lack of confidence and self-worth if he just up and left you for someone else.

What do you do for hobbies? For fun?

September 27, 2019, 12:19:38 PM
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beardedbear


Don't worry. You are not the only one who wants the ex back.

 

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