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Author Topic: It's just not the same without her.

August 14, 2018, 12:49:39 AM
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mendheart


It's just not the same without her.
I know it’s been more than a year already, but I still miss her terribly. I tried everything. I picked up new hobbies, traveled the country for a bit, joined some dream tours for singles events and started dating again, but nothing seems to work. It’s just not the same without her. Maybe I should try getting her back? I don’t know. Last I heard was she’s happily with some guy she met at her new job. I know it’s been so long since our breakup, but I really wanna give us another shot. Should I go for it?
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August 14, 2018, 05:23:11 PM
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goodevening


Re: It's just not the same without her.
Quote from: mendheart on August 14, 2018, 12:49:39 AM
I know it’s been more than a year already, but I still miss her terribly. I tried everything. I picked up new hobbies, traveled the country for a bit, joined some dream tours for singles events and started dating again, but nothing seems to work. It’s just not the same without her. Maybe I should try getting her back? I don’t know. Last I heard was she’s happily with some guy she met at her new job. I know it’s been so long since our breakup, but I really wanna give us another shot. Should I go for it?

Have you tried dating other women?

Some people don't tend to get over their ex unless they get into a relationship, or fall for someone else. I strongly believe in this (from my own feelings).

It may be worth signing up to some dating apps.
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August 15, 2018, 05:28:12 AM
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mendheart


Re: It's just not the same without her.
Quote from: goodevening on August 14, 2018, 05:23:11 PM
Quote from: mendheart on August 14, 2018, 12:49:39 AM
I know it’s been more than a year already, but I still miss her terribly. I tried everything. I picked up new hobbies, traveled the country for a bit, joined some dream tours for singles events and started dating again, but nothing seems to work. It’s just not the same without her. Maybe I should try getting her back? I don’t know. Last I heard was she’s happily with some guy she met at her new job. I know it’s been so long since our breakup, but I really wanna give us another shot. Should I go for it?

Have you tried dating other women?

Some people don't tend to get over their ex unless they get into a relationship, or fall for someone else. I strongly believe in this (from my own feelings).

It may be worth signing up to some dating apps.

I tried but it didn't feel right. I still feel strongly for my ex even after a year.
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August 15, 2018, 10:30:41 AM
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Beally


Re: It's just not the same without her.
There was one time I loved someone so much that even after we were no longer together, I often thought about him. He'd moved on, was happy with someone else but I felt that maybe one day, somehow he would come back.

Two three years after the break up I realized that we could never get back together and I had to start considering finding someone else.

That's what you should do too.

Hard though it will be to move on, some broken things can't be fixed. Letting go will be hard, I know that from experience but you have to try it. There always is someone who will replace love you lost, you just need to keep looking. Just don't compare what you had with what you have or will have because things can't be the same and it is unfair to make such comparisons too.

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August 24, 2018, 04:38:40 PM
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Rita101


Re: It's just not the same without her.
Quote from: mendheart on August 14, 2018, 12:49:39 AM
I know it’s been more than a year already, but I still miss her terribly. I tried everything. I picked up new hobbies, traveled the country for a bit, joined some dream tours for singles events and started dating again, but nothing seems to work. It’s just not the same without her. Maybe I should try getting her back? I don’t know. Last I heard was she’s happily with some guy she met at her new job. I know it’s been so long since our breakup, but I really wanna give us another shot. Should I go for it?

Firstly, I would like to sympathize with you on losing or breaking up with you ex girlfriend. But before I can give any valid advice, I would like to know what led to the initial break up and what kept you from trying hard to keep her since it's obvious that you are still very much in love with her?
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August 25, 2018, 04:31:59 AM
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ajahcuizon


Re: It's just not the same without her.
Since the woman you love was already with another man and you said that she is already happy, I think it is time for you to let go. Maybe the reason why you are missing her is because you regret what you have done to her that you cause to break your relationship and you think hat there is still a chance for the both of you. What I could suggest for you to do is to talk with her, for the last time, about your relationship. If she said that there is still a chance for the both of you, then you can take a step forward to her, but if she said that she has enough and she's now happy with her new man, you have to accept the fact that there is no other chance, it may be hard but at least, you separated in good terms.
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August 25, 2018, 09:35:47 AM
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RoseKaizer


Re: It's just not the same without her.
I know how.it feels because I suffer that too with my.past relationship. I thought I can't really move on that time. But with the help of my friends.and.family I finally move on and happy right now.
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August 26, 2018, 05:19:56 PM
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jennyfermanuel


Re: It's just not the same without her.
You need a closure. We don't know what causes your break up, but for your own good and peace of mind you need to talk to her.
I am not saying that there is still a chance she still loves you and are also longing for you. But you won't know it unless you try talk to her.
And if it won't end the way we wanted it to, then at least you tried, and you let her know that you still love her.
Or maybe because you are guilty of something that leads for the break up to happen.
I am not saying that you are the one who did the first move to end the relationship, but most of the times people who did something wrong ended up feeling they still hasn't move on.
So for your own good, you need a closure.
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August 28, 2018, 10:24:06 AM
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alymae


Re: It's just not the same without her.
I feel the same way as you do. I feel so much pain when he left until now. I loved him so much that it is so hard to forget him. Did you have closure with her? It helps. What I am doing right now to forget him is to accept that we can't be together and he is not for me. I told myself that if he is for me, no matter how long and no matter what happens we will be together in the end. I always say this to myself everyday. I also tell myself someone out there would love me like I did him. Just stay positive, don't just look at this feelings.
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August 28, 2018, 06:19:19 PM
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vashuan


Re: It's just not the same without her.
Yes,  absolutely.  Because it only means, you're not meant to each other.  By this time,  try to go back to basic.  Learn to love yourself again.  Maybe that's the only thing you might have forgotten and the best thing for  you must do this time.  Most importantly,  you must have also learn to realize and understand your reality now.  Don't force something nor someone to be with you again. If it's not or if they're not really meant for you.
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