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Author Topic: Is it okay to stay friends after break up?

August 03, 2018, 01:20:10 AM
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ccoping30


There’s a big argument whether two people can stay friends after a break up. I was wondering if we can really be friends with the people we used to love. My ex girlfriend and I have long been broken up but until today we kept a civil relationship. When asked, we consider each other as friends. I’m just not sure if this is actually a good idea for the both of us. I’ve tried talking to a top foreign dating coach from this online site and they said it could result to another heartbreak but it can be good too. I want to know what others online has to say about this.

August 03, 2018, 07:29:29 AM
Reply #1

orfia


I have two Issues about that the first boyfriend I had was my friend before we decided to be in a relationship, actually I love it when he's not just treating me as a gf and morethan friend, the sweetness, the closeness and the trust we can give to each other but in one year there is no problem to him, I have problem it maybe because I am still young and parents arent also stable I was also a victim of child abused but I couldn't tell him because I'm afraid what will be his reaction because I already had enough pain from my parents, my feelings that time was mixed and complicated. I dont know what to do, so to clear my mind I broke up with him, he's always saying sorry even if he has no mistakes and ask me not to leave him because he love me so much. then I always tried, but after several breakups I ended it all up, he always wanna say something to me but he's afraid and I can see that because he cried a lot more than me, but there's some thought came to my mind saying dont leave me but I dont know how to say it, then after two years he proposed my bestfriend,  I don't know if he just using her because he introduced her in front of me. thats so much painful that time, my heart is so much painful but I made sure he cant see any of my emotions so I congratulated him and say good for you my friend, good luck because she's a good girl unlike me, then after some days I always talking to him but didn't show him I'm broken inside.. then when I graduated we lost our contacts then the first day of my college I saw a messages on my phone, I dont know who was it because its new number then he said he's AL my tears rolled down and said really?  at that time he confessed he still love me but cant leave his current gf just like I did. then after a year we both moved on and decided to continued our friendship and I can say now that My ex is now my bestfriend, the second issue is my current ex. we just broke up this last 3months then he asked me to be just friends but I said no because the pain is still fresh and I cant be friend of him because it will be more painful and I'm afraid it will be the reason why I cant move on. now, I can say yes, two ex lovers might become friends if theyre both moved on. 😊

August 03, 2018, 01:25:58 PM
Reply #2

Corzhens


Being friends with your ex is the ideal setup because there will be no hard feelings or grudge. However, I understand that it is not that easy to be friends again after a break up although it depends on the reason of the break up. Anyway, I know of some couples who remained friends after their break up and even became friends again after being married with another person. In my case, I don't remember being an enemy of my ex although I can't say that we are friends.

August 03, 2018, 05:47:56 PM
Reply #3

wallet


I don't think is possible to be a friend to someone you loved before, there are memories, fights and all the rest and these will always interfere with your relationship.

August 03, 2018, 07:22:43 PM
Reply #4

QueenFarLou


Not okay if the other one hasn't fully moved on yet. The pain, regret and the hate must all go away before an ex couple start being friends. Let it all heal first.

August 04, 2018, 02:00:29 AM
Reply #5

huggypillows


That's my question too. why we can't keep friendship after a break up. but to my answer Is NO and depends to other people this is just my opinion once that you enter a relationship you evolved to higher relationship you can just go back to friendship level like nothing happened and that will be a problem to your future relationship to someone else you cannot stop yourself to comparison. that if you still have a little feeling for your ex it will bloom once that your present can't met what your expectations. so please.

August 10, 2018, 08:39:38 AM
Reply #6

ashmatt


It depends upon the situation, If you still love your ex how can you move on if you can stay friends with him/her, but if both of you decided to break and your break-up is good then both of you can stay friends at least you can save your relationship as a friend and you can create new memories as a friend.

 

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