Author Topic: Help my boyfriend broke up with me for his baby mama

Sparkle1317 · August 27, 2018, 09:04:46 PM

Thanks for taking the time to answer my question appreciate it .
I’m completely heartbroken and devastated 💔😢...I been with my now (ex) boyfriend for 1 year who is a wonderful person very kind and down to earth ..when we first got together he told me that he and two older kids (14,17) by two different women and a baby on the way by another woman .. he explain to me that they where never in an exclusive relationship but they where having sex on and off for the past 4 Year’s .. he even had relationships with other women in between .. well she could have kids because of fibroids but for some reason she end up pregnant . Well through out the pregnancy he was there physically but not sexually .. well he always say I don’t wanna be with her just because she’s pregnant and that he wasn’t attracted to her .. well after the baby born (currently 5 months) he started to act different he was doing things a boyfriend would do when it comes to his baby mother .. he had her sleep over at his house every other weekend ( he claimed that he wanted his mother to have a bond with his son) then he would take her to the movies drop her to wrk do her laundry and even take her grocery shopping .. well all of a sudden he’s saying he’s not the man for me I can do better ,, then he said that he have a better connection with her she likes the same things he like and he learn from her and I’m not the woman for him .. then he’s saying he owes it to his son to make it wrk with the mother cuz all of his 2 other kids he tried .. I’m completely devastated and heart broken. How can he go from saying that he never though he find a woman like me and I make him happy and him not being attracted to her to she’s the woman for him. ? Am I wrong for wanting to fight for him or should I just leave it along .. heartbroken 💔😢💔😢💔

goodevening · August 27, 2018, 09:23:01 PM

Quote from: Sparkle1317 on August 27, 2018, 09:04:46 PM

Thanks for taking the time to answer my question appreciate it .
I’m completely heartbroken and devastated 💔😢...I been with my now (ex) boyfriend for 1 year who is a wonderful person very kind and down to earth ..when we first got together he told me that he and two older kids (14,17) by two different women and a baby on the way by another woman .. he explain to me that they where never in an exclusive relationship but they where having sex on and off for the past 4 Year’s .. he even had relationships with other women in between .. well she could have kids because of fibroids but for some reason she end up pregnant . Well through out the pregnancy he was there physically but not sexually .. well he always say I don’t wanna be with her just because she’s pregnant and that he wasn’t attracted to her .. well after the baby born (currently 5 months) he started to act different he was doing things a boyfriend would do when it comes to his baby mother .. he had her sleep over at his house every other weekend ( he claimed that he wanted his mother to have a bond with his son) then he would take her to the movies drop her to wrk do her laundry and even take her grocery shopping .. well all of a sudden he’s saying he’s not the man for me I can do better ,, then he said that he have a better connection with her she likes the same things he like and he learn from her and I’m not the woman for him .. then he’s saying he owes it to his son to make it wrk with the mother cuz all of his 2 other kids he tried .. I’m completely devastated and heart broken. How can he go from saying that he never though he find a woman like me and I make him happy and him not being attracted to her to she’s the woman for him. ? Am I wrong for wanting to fight for him or should I just leave it along .. heartbroken 💔😢💔😢💔

I am so sorry, that must be really hard. It sounds devastating.

As he's a father, he probably feels inclined to at least give it a go with his ex to see if it works out, for the sake of the child.

It's a really difficult situation! How was your relationship with him in that 1 year? Was everything completely fine?

Whatever decision you do decide to make (whether you try and get him to stay or go) you need to make sure you stick to it!

You can't let him get back with her and then he comes running back a couple months later.

so sorry, hope you fix this.

Sparkle1317 · August 27, 2018, 09:27:47 PM

We never had a problem in that year I honestly thought I found my soul mate I’m shock at the fact the way he describe her as a old woman and he’s so unattractive to her .. we had a great relationship 😒💔

jaymish · August 27, 2018, 09:34:50 PM

My advise never go where your not wanted.Let him go! Good riddance to bad rubbish. Let them raise their child together if they can but I will bet you that they will not be together for more then two minutes. I hope you don't want him back?Why would you? Normally I would tell people to stay away from men with baby mama's. If you have to get involved, please do so with caution,normally they are still feelings attached and they have a child together. Find a way to get over him they are plenty of fish in the sea.

goodevening · August 27, 2018, 09:36:40 PM

Quote from: jaymish on August 27, 2018, 09:34:50 PM

My advise never go where your not wanted.Let him go! Good riddance to bad rubbish. Let them raise their child together if they can but I will bet you that they will not be together for more then two minutes. I hope you don't want him back?Why would you? Normally I would tell people to stay away from men with baby mama's. If you have to get involved, please do so with caution,normally they are still feelings attached and they have a child together. Find a way to get over him they are plenty of fish in the sea.

I have to agree, and it may be hard at first, but I think it's for the best.

If he's happy to ditch you, and your relationship, then he's not worth your time!

You deserve better.

goodevening · August 27, 2018, 09:37:48 PM

@Sparkle1317 - Let us know how you get on though and what happens moving forward.

We're always here, oh, and welcome to the forums btw!

Sparkle1317 · August 27, 2018, 09:40:00 PM

Thank you very much for responding 🙏🏽

ajahcuizon · August 28, 2018, 03:05:36 AM

In my opinion, you should let go of that man. He might be kind and down to earth but think about the children that he had with different women. He might say that he is happy with you but his children needs him as their father. You don't want to be a reason for a broken family right? I understand, it is not easy to let go, since nowadays, it is rare to find such man that is kind but you should also consider on letting him to be a father to his children. You can find another man to love and to be with, but they can never replace their father for their family to be complete.

Sparkle1317 · August 28, 2018, 05:10:25 AM

Ok I completely understand what ur saying but this is his 3rd baby mother this is not is first child .. why is it for him to be a father he has to be sexually active and be her man in order to be a father to his child .. so the other two kids where he did wrk wit the mom he’s not a father ? He a great dad to his other kids .. I just don’t get the part not because u have a baby with some one means u have to be with them .. the most important thing is providing love and care for that child smh but thanks for ur respond !! I hate when ppl say breaking a family up lord smh ..

goodevening · August 28, 2018, 10:09:41 AM

Quote from: Sparkle1317 on August 28, 2018, 05:10:25 AM

Ok I completely understand what ur saying but this is his 3rd baby mother this is not is first child .. why is it for him to be a father he has to be sexually active and be her man in order to be a father to his child .. so the other two kids where he did wrk wit the mom he’s not a father ? He a great dad to his other kids .. I just don’t get the part not because u have a baby with some one means u have to be with them .. the most important thing is providing love and care for that child smh but thanks for ur respond !! I hate when ppl say breaking a family up lord smh ..

I agree, he doesn't necessarily need to be with the woman, we live in the 21st century, as long as you provide care for the child, and you're very loving, that's all that matters.

goodevening · August 28, 2018, 10:11:13 AM

He also needs to realise that the grass isn't always greener on the other side @Sparkle1317 !

You need to make clear that if he does choose to run back to her, then he isn't able to come back into your relationship at any time, it's over.

Otherwise he will continue to mess you around, and at some stage, if he does go back to her, he will realise that he didn't make the right choice.

You can't force yourself to love another woman just because you have kids with them, mistakes happen.

Sparkle1317 · August 28, 2018, 03:51:37 PM

Thanks for understanding what I’m saying cuz everything he’s telling me makes no sence I’m starting to believe he’s just lying and maybe he’s inlove with her cuz his excuses makes no sence and I’m tired of the break up family situation cuz u can not force a relationship because of a child but I’m very much still heart broken and hurt I’m having a hard time letting this go and I feel I’m slipping into depression but it is what it is I’m let u know how I play out .. but thanks again for ur opinion it helps a lot 🙏🏽

goodevening · August 28, 2018, 05:35:55 PM

Quote from: Sparkle1317 on August 28, 2018, 03:51:37 PM

Thanks for understanding what I’m saying cuz everything he’s telling me makes no sence I’m starting to believe he’s just lying and maybe he’s inlove with her cuz his excuses makes no sence and I’m tired of the break up family situation cuz u can not force a relationship because of a child but I’m very much still heart broken and hurt I’m having a hard time letting this go and I feel I’m slipping into depression but it is what it is I’m let u know how I play out .. but thanks again for ur opinion it helps a lot 🙏🏽

Surround yourself with friends and family, and keep yourself occupied!

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