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January 16, 2019, 01:19:47 AM
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SR0710


So the background.

Me and my ex had been together for sround 5 years. On and off we had moved in together and broke up again several times.

This latest time we got back together and I got her a good paying job at my work however the last 9 months since she got this new job I got very insecure and there was lots of arguing.

Even up until the week before we broke up she was still decorating the house as if we had a future together.

We broke up around 5 months ago and I found out last week she has a new boyfriend from work that she has been seeing for around 2 months from what I can gather.

Before Christmas I text her to say Id got the Christmas decorations down from the loft and including a sentimental card from her deceased Grandparents.

She said she would be round to get it but didnt contact for a month till today out the blue she texts asking if Id kept the card, I said I wouldnt of thrown such a thing away and that I could mail it if she gave me her address. She said she would be able to come round Thursday to get it or I could mail whatever is easier.

I may be reading too much into this but I cant see why she would be so forgetful over the Xmas period and why she didnt just take me up on my offer of mailing it. Especially since shes now FB official with new guy from work.

What are your thoughts do I mail it or have her come round and try to play it cool?

I love her and get the feeling it isnt over I made big mistakes but there were many outside circumstances that made it difficult for us but this is the first time in 5 years shes got a new boyfriend and the first time Ive felt she has lost attraction for me making me insecure for the first time and unable to move on.

I can provide more info if you wish I'd love a neutral opinion  :( :(

January 20, 2019, 06:26:29 PM
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So the background.

Me and my ex had been together for sround 5 years. On and off we had moved in together and broke up again several times.

This latest time we got back together and I got her a good paying job at my work however the last 9 months since she got this new job I got very insecure and there was lots of arguing.

Even up until the week before we broke up she was still decorating the house as if we had a future together.

We broke up around 5 months ago and I found out last week she has a new boyfriend from work that she has been seeing for around 2 months from what I can gather.

Before Christmas I text her to say Id got the Christmas decorations down from the loft and including a sentimental card from her deceased Grandparents.

She said she would be round to get it but didnt contact for a month till today out the blue she texts asking if Id kept the card, I said I wouldnt of thrown such a thing away and that I could mail it if she gave me her address. She said she would be able to come round Thursday to get it or I could mail whatever is easier.

I may be reading too much into this but I cant see why she would be so forgetful over the Xmas period and why she didnt just take me up on my offer of mailing it. Especially since shes now FB official with new guy from work.

What are your thoughts do I mail it or have her come round and try to play it cool?

I love her and get the feeling it isnt over I made big mistakes but there were many outside circumstances that made it difficult for us but this is the first time in 5 years shes got a new boyfriend and the first time Ive felt she has lost attraction for me making me insecure for the first time and unable to move on.

I can provide more info if you wish I'd love a neutral opinion  :( :(

how did you split up @SR0710 - was it quite a rough split up? As I can see that you're still seeking closure.

we need insight into this before being able to advise! it sounds like the relationship wasn't going well as you broke up a few times, why was this?

 

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