Author Topic: Do you believe in second chances after a breakup?

aecel · April 17, 2018, 01:11:00 AM

They say that love is sweeter the second time around I don't know if it's true or not because I've never experienced going back to my exes after the breakup. Could you still forgive someone after a painful breakup and ask for a second chance to get back together? Are you not afraid to get hurt again if ever you get back together?

susan105 · April 17, 2018, 08:32:10 AM

I think it really depends on why you decided to split up in the first place, I believe in second chances after a breakup if nothing naughty, malicious or nasty happened. Some couples decide that they aren't compatible, to then find that they actually miss each other once they've split up, then give it another ago.

However, if he cheated, or she (need to stop being sexist!

) then I don't think you should run back anytime soon, no, because ... once a cheat, always a cheat.

erick100 · April 18, 2018, 03:10:23 AM

Everyone deserves second chance. They are always say that but it depends on you. If you're still love your someone then you give him/her second chance if it is what you think. If you don't love her/him anymore then you must to be honest to him/her because it's bad to cheat of someone feelings if you don't love him/her anymore.

Jasonn · April 18, 2018, 07:10:32 AM

It depends on the circumstances. I mean, some situations are more despicable than others. What do you all think are some unforgivable (at least in the sense of getting back together) ones?

sarangjaybee · April 19, 2018, 07:44:31 AM

I do believe that if both parties have the same feeling towards each another, there should be a second chance. I mean, if you know what was wrong and you've realized you can make it right, then I guess it should be better to make things right. Take for example an invention. Most inventions take a lot of time to be successfully made and be able to be commercialized. That, I guess, should be also realized in the concept of relationships.

I mean, if a person entered a relationship, he/she should be aware of the consequences, trials, temptations, as well as misunderstandings that may or may not occur in their relationship's timeline. For me, if a person learns how to accept failures and mistakes, then it will be easier for couples to just move on and correct the mistakes they've done to each other.

kgail · April 19, 2018, 08:17:16 AM

Well it all depends if it is still worth it. Because no matter how much you love a person giving them a second chance especially when they hurt you so bad its not worth the try anymore. Cause there is a high chance that they will do it again. Always protect your heart and love yourself first.

shai · April 19, 2018, 08:21:15 AM

After the break up if the love for each other is still there I think it deserves a second chance. Everyone must be provided a chance to set things right in a relationship. Afterall there is no perfect relationship.
People make mistakes all the time. When you were a kid you cursed your parents, they forgave you. Many instances like that. Humans make mistakes and repent it. Forgive and forget and live happily. If you lose in your relationship you lose forever. Most people these days don't even give it a try.
But it always depends on the situation/circumstances you're at.

Yannie · April 19, 2018, 01:54:52 PM

It would depend on the reason of the breakup. If it's worth forgiving and accepting him/her back into your life, then maybe your love deserves to have a second chance, as long as you still have a mutual feeling for each other. If the reason was a grave one, you can forgive him/her but I think there's no more point of giving your love a second chance, because I'm sure that there will be an issue of trust along the way. Love is always accompanied by trust.

onixiwa · April 20, 2018, 08:13:00 PM

It depends on the reason for the breakup. If it's due to cheating or abuse, I won't even think about giving a second chance, but if it were due to just falling out of love or moving to another state or country and then seeing each other again at a different time, it's worth another shot.

junrose123 · April 21, 2018, 07:29:42 AM

This is a tough question for me because it is very to decide on that issue. For my own opinion I will only give a second chance for my partner if the reason of our break up is just simple and not so deep reasons because I believe that is not bad to give a second chance if the person really deserves it.

huggypillows · July 20, 2018, 01:01:15 PM

Why you need to break up if you after some other time you will ask a second time around?

I'm sorry about this but I don't believe of second time around. I am being bitter ?/Yes I am. there is a guy that I love and his ex still trying to get him and have a second time around. I told him if he really loves you why he need to break up with you and hurt you and ask for another chance? If you really love someone you will fight for that person and you will never hurt the person you love by just doing selfish decision .

sidica · July 20, 2018, 01:04:22 PM

Yes I think is fair to give a second chance in love as long as the break-up reason hasn’t been something dark or nasty, but give time to the time don’t come back immediately.
Even when you break up or someone hurt you but you still care about that person is not a good idea to give a second chance immediately because you will be living the same story for a second time and that will be horrible, I can tell you that from my own experience.
Give it time some time, maybe a couple of years… some people change and become in a better version of them but other people never change for good.
My point is that the person who you had the relationship today is not necessarily going to be the same person three years later just to give a sample. If after a while you meet him/her again and you are still interested, why don’t give it a try, this time being careful to don’t fall in the same mistakes?
I meet an ex-boyfriend recently after not seen him in 5 years, it felt good to see him again, we didn’t come back cause I’m already in a relationship but I discovered that all the pain we went through is gone and we were laughing and drinking a beer remembering the good times and we agreed that our relationship didn’t work out then cause we didn’t give us the chance to know us better. But we are happy to be friends now.

RoseKaizer · July 21, 2018, 12:33:00 PM

Yes I believe, because I believe that love is sweeter the second time around. And I also believe that everyone deserved a second chance. Like me, I have an experience about being brokenhearted because my boyfriend cheated on me, I am so angry with him that time, I didnt listen with his explaination, but my friends and family advice me that I should listen to his explaination first, so I did and after that realization hits me, I said to myself that this man deserve a second chance and that second chance I give to him was worthed because he really changed and he really learned from his mistakes.Now we are in our 8 years of our relationship, still string and counting.

Corzhens · July 21, 2018, 06:08:33 PM

Based on the experience of some of my friends before, it is not healthy to take another chance with your ex unless the reason for breakup was petty like due to pride. When there is a third party, that is the indication for a big NO because once he did it then he will do it again. For your part, if you got peeved with his annoying attitude then that's also a big NO because people don't change attitude overnight and it's on tv and movies that they do that. If your ex is lazy and messy with himself then he will not learn hygiene in a day or two and he will remain lazy. As they say, there are billions of people in the world and there may be thousands of qualified and capable partner for you just around the corner.

Lissiel · July 22, 2018, 06:36:02 AM

Of course, I believe on second chances only if the person is worthy. I must admit I never gave my ex-boyfriend a second chance when he asked for it before. I felt no love for him anymore. You have to be careful when giving your second chances and it's only you will be the one to know he is worthy of that second chances. When there's true love between you after you broke up; it is really worthy for a second try.

wallet · July 22, 2018, 06:57:29 AM

Well, if it was my fault I would do anything for a second chance, but if my life partner would cheat on me I would never give her a second chance.

vashuan · July 22, 2018, 10:24:47 AM

Talking about giving or believing for a second chances after break up, for me it depends on the circumstances or reasons of the said break up if it really deserves for a second chance. If for example, if the reasons are due to misinterpretations, misunderstanding and some other considerable things that as I said, deserves for a second chance. But if the reasons are due to severe mistakes or being irresponsible of his/her commitment to the other or even to one another. Then it would be better to the both parties to move on and live in separate ways.

Martinsx · July 25, 2018, 04:51:56 AM

Well, depending on what led to the breakup in the first place is what would determine if I'm going to give a second chance a trail. There are some situations that one can't control in one's relationship and it may end up leading to breaking up. For such reasons, I might be open to second chances but if it's something like infidelity and cheating, there is no room for second chances in my book.

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