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Author Topic: Cutting off common friends after breakup

December 12, 2018, 10:36:23 PM
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angeliacq


I feel ridiculous asking this, but I just need clarity. My ex and I have a lot of common friends since we basically grew up together.  Most of these people are still actively communicating with us even after the breakup and most of them want us to be back together too. I don't see myself being the same person after we parted ways, and I won't ever be at all. But these friends won't stop lumping us together and I think they're getting in the way of my moving on phase. I can't begin to explain myself to them because there's just a lot of things they don't need to know about me and my ex and I want to keep it that way. Should I just cut them off or is this a bad thing to do?

December 13, 2018, 10:48:38 PM
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I feel ridiculous asking this, but I just need clarity. My ex and I have a lot of common friends since we basically grew up together.  Most of these people are still actively communicating with us even after the breakup and most of them want us to be back together too. I don't see myself being the same person after we parted ways, and I won't ever be at all. But these friends won't stop lumping us together and I think they're getting in the way of my moving on phase. I can't begin to explain myself to them because there's just a lot of things they don't need to know about me and my ex and I want to keep it that way. Should I just cut them off or is this a bad thing to do?

I could imagine it's bloody difficult if you and your ex both have the same friends, this makes it increasingly difficult if you split up (as you're now experiencing).

 I haven't personally been in this situation before so I'm not the best person to give advice, but I think it's worth trying to make it work.

How did you and your ex split? Was it quite a nasty relationship break up or was it a split decision to end it? Did you end on good terms?

I wouldn't ever want to be hanging around my ex personally, this just wouldn't be good for my mental health.

It's worth having a private chat with your friends about your ex and that you've both decided to part ways and that it's not appropriate for them to make such comments.

if they continue, I'd slowly distant myself from them (personally!) and then see how they react and then they make stop altogether.

but it all depends if you really want to hang around people that associate themselves with your ex, it's so difficult @angeliacq!

hope you can find a way to work around this but i would have a chat with your friends x

 

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