Hello,

I am relatively new to Lets Chat Love and I have created a few forum threads already, however, I have another 

From your experience, can a relationship work after several breakups? So, I am speaking two to three break ups.

These breakups happened mutually, without any cheating, but the pair decided that the relationship wasn't working.

What're your thoughts?

Thanks!

My answer to this question is yes, maybe if you both still love each othe, maybe if you both haven't yet tired for several breakups and when u said several breakups it means you both has many arguments and i doubt the argument isn't only once in a week bcoz i know one of the reason of breakup is argument is often than loving each othe and take care of each other, also maybe if you both still trusting each other because I know trust is always a must if you lose your trust to someone, you can still be with her but unlike before it's a lot different, and also maybe if you both ready to forgive each other. .

You know I have cousin her husband was her girlfriend in 10years and inside that 10 years they have so many breakups also. they lost thier trust to each each other, they lost thier respect to each other, they tried to love different person at a time but still after all that happened the boy realized that he cant live without my cousin and he can still accept no matter what happened to her, then he tried to proposed again then after 1year the boy worked then married my cousin.. so I think  there's some circumstances that relationship may work but it may be not.


also for me it depends on a boy.

It takes two people's commitment to make the relationship work. And yes,even after multiple break-ups. However, a break up cannot always be a solution if you guys get into an argument. What I mean is that, you both listen to each other, understand each other and come up with a solution together. I takes two to tango, as they say. Best of luck!

Yes definitely, depending upon the determination and decision of both parties. I've heard of true-to-life stories where partners have experienced the worst case scenario of separation, have been separated for years already then found each other again, fell inlove and got married. It's a case-to-case basis which might work for some while fail when it comes to others. I am not saying that this happens all the time but there are instances when it already happened in the lives of some.

The best way to handle breakups is not to pressure the other partner to get back into the relationship as soon as possible but to allow each other to rest for a while, re-think their priorities, and quietly consider what they really want in life. Oftentimes, the process of time-out helps in mending broken hearts after hurtful words have been hurled against each other to renew the respect and love that has been lost. There is no better way than to respect the decision of the former partner and for the meantime, let go of the relationship.

There are no laws and rules stating how many times one has to break up or what makes a relationship work after the separation. Everybody is entitled to their freedom of choice and the more that a person is controlled within a specific relationship, the more that a person would want to get out and be freed from a dominating partner. Likewise, men, generally, do not like being controlled by women. They oftentimes need their own space to think, play or even have some time for himself. These are one of the reasons why men leave relationships vis-a-vis women as well when their freedom is no longer available to them.

Furthermore, several breakups would also mean a time to think things through and to decipher why either one of the lovers opts out of the relationship. Knowing the root of the problem will help prevent misunderstandings that lead to serious separations.