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Author Topic: Can't stop thinking about my ex

September 11, 2019, 12:57:51 AM
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sarah14


My ex and I dated for 5 years before he left me for another woman. I finally started dating someone new a year later, and I was happy for a couple months. The more this relationship progresses, the more I think about wanting my ex back. I feel really bad about the whole situation because I thought I was ready for a new relationship and had no intents of using anyone and now I feel like that's what I've done. My ex is still happy with the other woman, and I don't think he's ever going to even think about me again, but I can't stop thinking about him. And I'm with somebody new who couldn't possibly be any better to me, and I feel terrible for not being able to appreciate him more. Will I ever be able to let go and be happy with someone new? I've done all the right things: spending more times with friends and family, getting in shape, going out more and having fun. How can I move on and just be happy with now?

September 12, 2019, 12:12:47 PM
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iwantclosure


A year is a long time. I'm very sorry that you feel this way. The pain is real. I'll also say this...

If you are in this new relationship still thinking about your ex, YOU HAVE TO WALK. As soon as possible. This isn't fair to the other person or to you because you're messing yourself up. The only right thing to do, unless you're both on the same page and don't want anything serious or see this as a rebound, is WALK. Break up with him in the cleanest way possible and be by yourself.

Do whatever you have to do to be by yourself, don't even force yourself to be happy, if life sucks right now that's how it is. Go on a trip. Get into meditation. Find someone with no strings attached if you don't want to sleep alone and if that's your kind of thing, or don't if it isn't. But for god's sake don't stay in a relationship with someone while loving another person especially if that feeling only gets stronger and if it's serious for the guy. You need to walk out of this for both of your sake.
« Last Edit: September 12, 2019, 12:44:40 PM by iwantclosure »

September 12, 2019, 11:31:46 PM
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sarah14


Yeah, I realized that, thank you. I broke up with him last night.

 

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