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Author Topic: Broke up because of a fight with her family... any fixing?

August 08, 2019, 09:47:35 AM
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Ok so her family was treating both of us like crap. They are abusive people. They ignored her on her birthday and they didn't go to her graduation. They stopped talking to her. The mom slaps her....  Her parents got a divorce because once her mom slapped her and the father slapped the mom… etc.

Before all of this, we were keeping a long-distance thing going pretty well. I flew three times to stay with her family and we all got along very well in person. She flew a few times for me as well. But then they started treating me like they were treating her and I did stupid things because I didn’t know how to handle it. They called me fat, lazy, perverted, desperate, fake religious… etc. After a lot of abuse, I snapped and said terrible things to them. The girl broke up with me after 2 years. We were apart for 7 months and I went crazy after the breakup. I miss her so much. I know I changed and learned a lot, but she blocked me on everything. I also sent her family a few apology letters, but they ignore them. A few days ago her brother threatened to beat me up if I didn’t stop sending letters.

Is there any fixing this?

August 10, 2019, 08:04:36 AM
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Hey, sorry you went through this with her family. TBH, there is nothing you need to apologize for. What they did was unacceptable and they owe you an apology. With her, she might be codependent and not understand that the behavior from her family is unacceptable. She will need to get counseling to learn healthy boundaries and to maneuver herself to learn how to handle situations like tjis and to know what healthy relationships are. Until she does this, she will never be ready for a relationship.

 

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