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December 04, 2019, 06:26:04 PM
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I've been happily with a girl for nearly 5 years. She recently broke up with me but still wants to remain best friends. I also want this. We still live in the same house for the time being.

Background information, this girl has always been not very sexual. Best way to describe it is her feelings never got past the point most people do in puberty. So she never fancied anyone or craved sex. She described herself as slightly asexual.

The relationship was perfect we had the same ideals and always got on really well. Then recently she'd been upset and I didn't know why. She then broke it to me that she wasn't happy and wanted to end the relationship. She says it was purely that she was happy but I also know she had gotten her first crush and that almost certainly played a part.

The breakup has left me an emotional wreck but she has helped me through it and been very supportive. But now she is with this guy that she got the crush on and she is happy. It's only been 2 months. I want to be happy for her (and to some extent I am) but I still love her and feel like Im not able to move on. I feel as crap now as when we first broke up.

Just need some advice on how to be there for her as a friend but still get past this. I'm truly glad she's happy but don't know how to be happy myself.

December 05, 2019, 12:41:55 AM
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helloladies21


This is the problem with being friends with an ex. It prevents you from moving on from them. I know it's difficult and you may not have the strength yet, but you're eventually going to have to rip off the band aid of her presence and cut contact with her. It's the only way you're going to free yourself up emotionally to move on from her.

Also, your self esteem is taking a hit from witnessing, first-hand, her being happy with another man. You will continuously wonder "Why not me?"

 

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