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Author Topic: Best ways of dealing with a breakup

April 10, 2018, 06:17:27 PM
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Nobody likes them, but we've all probably had to deal with them at some point. The breakup!

For me, when I've been in that situation I've found that really embracing my own hobbies and things I enjoy doing is key. I try and treat myself kindly - whether that be a manicure, a movie night with my friends, or even traveling somewhere new! At all costs I try and avoid listening to sad music or watching sad movies!

What about you?
« Last Edit: July 27, 2018, 12:03:50 PM by Brett »

April 10, 2018, 07:52:18 PM
Reply #1


The best first thing to do on breaking up with your relationship is to not rush into another almost immediately after the break up. This would help you to understand what went wrong in your former relationship and help you not to make the same mistakes over again by rushing into another relationship so fast.

Take a time off, travel to another place. Meet new people and have fun, do the the things that makes you happy and before you realize what's happening, you would have gotten over the break up.

April 10, 2018, 11:38:02 PM
Reply #2


I try to play video games and go hang out with friends. I want to keep my mind busy so that I don't have to think about the relationship all the time. I would also like to spend time with my family because they are always there.

April 12, 2018, 02:20:06 AM
Reply #3


I feel like some of these are suggestive that you find another partner, and sure after a while if you want to. But only if you want to.

April 12, 2018, 10:18:36 PM
Reply #4


Probably dealing with it? I did myself busy as whole day just to forget things that bothered me. Sometimes I've eaten my favorite food to relieve my stress.

April 15, 2018, 02:11:28 AM
Reply #5


Dealing with break up is not easy as you will be doing the step by step process. It takes time to heal, you really need time for yourself alone to cry out all your frustrations and pain. What I did first I let my self cry all night all day and for a week. After that week I have to socialize with other people for me to at least forget him once in a while.  I let myself enjoy and try to do the things just to make myself busy. Although it was really hard for me to make a move and enjoy but I really have to do it for my own sake. If you are really willing to move on, you can do it as long as you don't have contacts together. Just think of all the negative things he did to you and the bad things you see in the future with him. Don't let yourself beg for him to come back. It's not good and please know your worth.
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April 16, 2018, 11:09:15 AM
Reply #6


Well, it's not really easy of course, the more you wanted to forget it, the more you will remember your ex.  Just make your self busy, like focus on your work, do some extra activity like playing sports, go to the gym, drink some beer with your friends, and just go to your bed if you really need it.  Don't force your self to forget.

April 16, 2018, 09:50:05 PM
Reply #7


Ending a relationship is never easy, whether the relationship ended because the two of you gradually grew apart or because one of you hurt the other, you can begin to move on by keeping yourself preoccupied and getting to know new people. Find a new hobby that will distract you, such as writing or painting.

In my experience photography and video games really works.  ;D

April 19, 2018, 09:30:06 AM
Reply #8


Free hands are tools of devil. Whenever I have some hard situation in my life, emotional or some other way, I give my self full hands of work. I start training much more then I do usually, I find some job to work at home, at the end u always have that part before you fall to sleep,where you are left on your own with your brain, if you trained ,worked or did some other physical activity you will fall to sleep very fast. Even people that got hooked on heroin manage to get them self clean by working all day  and not letting there brain think for them.

April 19, 2018, 12:10:22 PM
Reply #9


I had a hard time dealing with breakup a long time ago. It's like I was helpless and lifeless. I had been crying all day long I didn't want to eat, I wanted to be alone and not to talk to anyone. I honestly didn't know what to do on how to deal with so much heartache. The only thing I wish back then was to erase all memories that we had together. But unfortunately, it wouldn't happen unless I'll have an accident and got amnesia. I remember I was so tired of crying so I prayed to God to make all the pain go away I asked him to help me to move on I had been praying that every night for a couple of months it's not instant but every single day I had been healing I made myself busy again it's a long process but prayers helped me a lot to deal with painful breakup.  :)

April 19, 2018, 01:49:02 PM
Reply #10


For me, the best way to deal with a breakup is to release all the pain you endured throughout the relationship. Just tell him/her how you exactly feel. But don't beg for her/him to come back in your life. Accept the breakup. Release all the pain you feel, cry as much as you want until you'll realize that you're just wasting your tears for him/her. I know it's difficult but it worked for me in the past. It might take long to move on but along the way, you will no longer feel the pain. Instead you will just see yourself smiling each time you think of your past.

April 20, 2018, 08:11:14 PM
Reply #11


Take your mind away and start doing other things you love, be it studies, work, hobbies, and just go out with your friends. The first few days or weeks will be tough and it's best to acknowledge your sadness or anger at the start but talk to other people and not just to yourself. This way, you can let go and move on as you share your experiences with others while keeping your mind away with other activities.

April 21, 2018, 07:37:47 AM
Reply #12


We all know that break up is one of the saddest part in every relationship and honestly I don't want to experience such thing. For me it is better to talk about the problems that each couple are experiencing. Break up is not an immediate solution to a certain problem, it must be settle by both partners as much as possible.

April 30, 2018, 06:07:55 AM
Reply #13


Hi there, according to me dealing with a breakup is not easy. You need to be big heart to accept the breakup in your relationship. Breakup results in anxiety, anger, depression and sometimes death. I have heard that there are professionals who are expert in curing depression.
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April 30, 2018, 10:34:29 PM
Reply #14


I think the best way in dealing with a break up is to accept that it is over. That no matter how much you love the person if its not meant to be it will never work out. It will in someway or somehow end.  You have to understand too that all the pain that comes with a break up is normal. That no matter how unbearable the pain is there will come a time that everything is gonna be alright. 
The not so expert love adviser :)

May 14, 2018, 06:08:20 AM
Reply #15


Dealing it with a heart that is willing to understand why both of you ended that way, I suggest to talk to it peacefully and with understanding. Everything goes right when both of you talk about it properly.

July 17, 2018, 01:01:38 AM
Reply #16


Dealing it with a heart that is willing to understand why both of you ended that way, I suggest to talk to it peacefully and with understanding. Everything goes right when both of you talk about it properly.

Perfect idea, thank you. The better is to find out cool place. Sitting there for about 1 hour. Talk to her with solid attitude and impression.

July 20, 2018, 10:38:26 AM
Reply #17


Most of us who experienced entering into a relationship more than once had experience breakup. It will really come to that point that we have to face this situation whether you are ready or not.

First, it's really normal that you will experience heartache. To people who are new to new to it really find it hard to deal with it don't avoid and ignore the pain.  Second, embrace your situation. I know it's difficult but you have to accept the fact that you are not together anymore. But don't force yourself too much too, we also need time to sync the situation. Before we accept things, we also need to forgive ourselves and your partner too; so all the what-ifs and questions we have will come to an end. Third and the most important thing, love yourself. Love will still be the one who will pull you and will heal you. A love from yourself is the best remedy of all of a broken heart. 

July 22, 2018, 10:44:24 AM
Reply #18


The best ways in dealing with a break up is acceptance and willful understanding of the said break up.  A relationship is like a game.  You may possibly win or loose.  It is also a matter of taking risk. That no matter what will happen, you are ready for the possibilities to happen.  Break ups serves as lessons.  That the next time around you have to see to it, that you have learned from your past relationship; you are getting matured and more knowledgeable in dealing with it and most especially, it is still a matter of acceptance and understanding.  But this time, your own reality. So that there will be lesser chances of break ups.

July 23, 2018, 07:29:01 PM
Reply #19


Breakup is the saddest thing in a relationship. Old folks here say that being in love comes with the probability of a breakup so you have to be ready for that. I guess the best antidote to fight off the sadness of a breakup is to socialize particularly with your friends (of the same gender). Being a girl, I would surely forget, even momentarily, the sadness when I am with my female friends. What not to do is to stay at home, be in your room and listen to music. That is suicide for you. Socialize, get out, go to the mall with your friends or family, go out of town. Just do anything that can divert your attention and better if you will enjoy the activity.

July 26, 2018, 05:15:11 AM
Reply #20


You can cry for one week after break up. but after that even this so hard put a smile on your lips again and focus on moving forward you can start it from ending all the way of communication from your phone find things where you can spend your days and start to believe to your self that you can move and you will forget everything about the person who hurts you. I believe that if someone really loves they will not do things that will hurt you and break love is care for someone. If you love that person you will never have or intention to hurt her or him.

July 26, 2018, 06:56:13 AM
Reply #21


Breaking up is hard for everybody. However the way we all deal with it is individual.Personally I like to listen to sad songs and to watch  sad movies, they soothe my soul. Off course this leads to lots and lots of crying but I think that this is a healthy way to get over a break up. Getting over a break up is a process so you need to accept it and go through it. Never try to pretend your okay or strong. You have to remember(inconvenient i know) that you're only human.Go with the flow, do what you need to do, treat yourself well, its only a matter of time and you will feel like yourself again.Take it as a lesson, and prepare for the new relationship that is coming your way.

July 26, 2018, 11:48:10 AM
Reply #22


It's really painful and tough for a person to be in this kind of situation but I believe that it's there not just for us to learn a lesson or something but also to be smarter and a better person next time we will be in a relationship. To be able to move on is to accept everything even if both didn't have a proper closure or not. Just surround yourself with the people who really cares about you like a close friend or a best friend and family. Do the things you want to do or go for an adventure with your loved ones. Life goes on even when the person you really care about leaves you or breaks up with you. Just be positive on all things and keep yourself busy with your career, Before you know it, all the pain and hurting is gone and you will know if you are over it when you can talk and laugh about it like it was just a decade ago.

July 27, 2018, 11:59:13 AM
Reply #23


Everybody is different and we all have different ways to deal with this kind of situation, personally what I do for first, is to pick up everything that reminds me of my ex because I don’t want to see stuff that makes me get even sadder.
Music is also my therapy, I'm a sensitive person so I cry a lot to let the emotion go out and when I listen to some music as I cry I always relax and feel better.
I like to watch movies about women who were in my situation and got to survive the crisis, it inspires me and makes me feel that I will be fine in the end.
I rather face the situation and deal with the feelings of frustration, I can’t hold my feelings and pretend that I'm well when I'm not, I prefer to confront the situation and let it be so I can be free of it in the time.
I cut all posible contact with my ex in all social nets, I delete his messages and do my best to avoid seeing him.
In a breakup, self-stime can go down because we don't understand why the relationship didn't work out and if we were the reason for the breakup, what I do, is to be positive in the middle of the pain, and tell myself that the pain is gonna be temporal and one day I will be able to see that person without experiencing any emotion, and that person will be a vague memory in my life.


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