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Author Topic: What is the most painful thing. He will forget you or He will leave you?

July 27, 2018, 09:02:28 AM
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For me its about. Since its same when he leaves you that also mean that he will forget you. Its much better if I'm the one who will forget everything. The one who only know is to love him so much more.

July 28, 2018, 05:43:23 AM
Reply #1


The most painful thing is when he stops loving you, he may be present but a woman to feel all alone, he may stay or leave but if he doesn't love you there is no hope anymore.

July 29, 2018, 12:42:10 PM
Reply #2


For me, the most painful thing is if he leaves me. I got to understand this dynamic when one of my ex-boyfriends left me, I was very attached to him and when I felt the things weren't working well I really did my best to fix the relationship. That feeling of not knowing  what's wrong is horrible, under my own experience a man will never admit openly that he is seeing another person, and  I used to break my head thinking what was I doing wrong, what could I do to save my relationship and with the constant fear that he could leave me at any time.
When he left me it was one of the worst experiences in my life, I feel in depression for 10 months and the first months I wasn't able to sleep well, I was crying all the time and just eating the necessary. Fortunately nothing last forever, even the bad stuff and the pain started to release.
I was working in the same company that he was, and I had to see him dating his new girlfriend, at first it was frustrating and I had my self-stime on the floor but I started to recover and now I'm a different person.
That experience helped me to grow up and to do better choices regarding the man that I wanted in my life, and the kind of person that I wanted to be.
After three years, I still work for his company, in fact, I'm his office assistant and I can tell you that I really don't care if he misses me or not if he forgot me or not or what's his opinion about me.
Don't take me wrong, I care about the opinion he has about me as an employee, but that's it. Our relationship is strictly between boss and employee.
Something that I learned from this experience is that the only opinion that really matters in regards to the way how you are or you live your life is yours.
When you learn to listen to others without taking it personal and without looking for being approved by them then you are free.
You don't need to be immortalized in someone's memory to be special, there's always gonna be people who love you and people who don't, people who care about you and people who don't, people who really get to know you and people who don't care.

July 29, 2018, 07:21:00 PM
Reply #3


Both scenarios are painful, and it's really hard to choose one over the other. I'll have to agree with wallet, the most painful thing is really when he stops loving you. Even if you're still together, it hurts so much when you realize that the love in the relationship is gone...and in that case, it's usually better to separate so that you both have a chance at happiness with someone else. Would it be easy? Absolutely not. But probably worth it in the long run.

Forgetting people is very difficult - at least it is for me. I remember (and have fond memories of) every guy I dated before my husband. I don't still love them, but it's nice to be able to think of them in a friendly manner, and I hope they do the same for me. One in particular emails me every year on my birthday, which I think is super sweet since he was my first boyfriend waaaaay back in middle school!

Being forgotten wouldn't be the end of the world, because life goes on...but it is nice to be remembered. Losing someone, though, can actually be a good thing in the long run.  :-\
<3 ~ Happily Married 17 Years ~ <3

July 31, 2018, 01:48:14 PM
Reply #4


Doesn't really matter to me because neither means you are with him. But whatever the reasons are, what's important is that you stay strong. The right guy still is yet to come.

August 02, 2018, 09:02:34 AM
Reply #5


I think the most painful thing is he will forget you. It means a lot to the one who you said that word.
As for me, if someone said that to me, i will be hurt so much. It will come to my mind, that this person want to stop or forget everything about me.
I will accept if he only leave me but never to forget.

August 05, 2018, 10:06:07 PM
Reply #6


I think this two is one and the same. It would hurt. A lot. I can't compare what is worst because this means the same, he is not in love with you. It's horrible to ever feel this way. I've experience this pain before. I thought I would not recover. But it's just as they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. This is the truth. Time heals everything, even the most painful experiences. In turn, the pain you felt will become your most valuable learning experience.

August 06, 2018, 09:57:48 PM
Reply #7


For me both leaving and forgetting is very painful. When he leaves you that means he wants to forget you so I think these two words are connected to each other. It also depends upon a person, he will be leaving you for important matter, for example, because of work so he needed to sacrifice your relationship for the sake of his dream but doesn't mean that he wants to forget you but there are tendencies that he can forget you.
NekoniEden <3

August 22, 2018, 11:47:31 AM
Reply #8


The most painful for me is when forgetting me, why? When he leaves you it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you anymore, though it's still painful but knowing that he still cares even he is not with you and he will be able to remember you and all the memories you had is better than completely forgetting everything about you just mean he doesn't care anymore.

August 22, 2018, 02:21:11 PM
Reply #9


This question is really hard to answer. Both are painful indeed and I think no one wants to experience these scenarios but if I may choose, I think more painful is he will forget me because if he leaves me, it does not mean that he has already stopped loving me. Maybe he just needs time to think or there are reasons that I should not know. However, if he forgets me, it just means that he has stopped loving me. Our hearts can remember everything and whoever we love but when the heart stopped loving that person, even our mind can never remember the feeling of loving that person we used to be with. So for me, forgetting me by the person I love is more painful that leaving me all alone.

August 23, 2018, 09:52:39 AM
Reply #10


For me the most painful thing is that he will leave you because when a person leaves, there is no guarantee that the person will come back again. Unlike when he forgets about you, its either he had an amnesia or he is just pretending that he doesn't know you. When he forgets everything, there might be a chance or a room for you to start all over again. But when a person leaves, we are not sure if he is still coming back or not anymore and we all know that waiting is one of the hardest parts in loving especially when you are not sure if you are really waiting up for something.

August 23, 2018, 11:17:58 AM
Reply #11


The most painful thing for me is to forget you.
If he want to forget you then you have nothing to do with it.
Unless if you still want him back before he decided to forget you..
You must act already to prevent it..
You need to get his attention and tell him that you still want him no matter what happens..that you still love him so much.
Because for me..Leaving you will give you pain but forgetting you is much worst.
But Some people says it is Easy to leave but hard to forget.


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