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December 20, 2018, 11:13:34 AM
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Tehilah27


What is your greatest fear in a relationship? My greatest fear is that i will love more than I am loved. I do not want to devote my life to someone who only tolerates me. I want to enjoy my relationship and know it will weather any storm that comes our way. What is your greatest fear in your relationship?

December 20, 2018, 09:27:28 PM
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katarinamurtin


No fears, I guess. I can't think of any. So what if you love him/her more? Someone has to do it.

December 21, 2018, 02:23:42 AM
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faithuy56


What is your greatest fear in a relationship? My greatest fear is that i will love more than I am loved. I do not want to devote my life to someone who only tolerates me. I want to enjoy my relationship and know it will weather any storm that comes our way. What is your greatest fear in your relationship?
There is no fear in love for love casts out fear. You only fear when relationship is just based in lust for sex. Love accepts the person without any condition. True love is unconditional. Love covers multitude of sins. It conquers all. Love will weather the storm.

December 25, 2018, 02:21:17 PM
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Esthrala


I fear distance. I don't think I can be in a long distance relationship. Some people  can, and I admire them for that, but I can't.

I need my love to hug me, kiss me, and hold me when I'm super happy or super sad. For me, physical connection can really strengthen a relationship, together with emotional bond. These two works perfectly for me to be able to have a healthy love life. Love, for me is not just a strong feeling, it's a fulltime commitment of your whole being to someone.
Esthrala🤓

December 26, 2018, 12:31:51 AM
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ghednepo


My fear in relationship is the break up process, because it hurts me a lot and this is the hardest part because it hard to forget all the memories and feeling for the person

December 27, 2018, 02:01:32 PM
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Rathiel


My greatest fear in a relationship is, if the relationship doesn't pan out, the processing of everything that went sour afterwards. Sometimes, it's a little nerve-wracking to break up with someone. Especially if the very reason for your break up is their toxic behavior. It's always good to be cautious.

That isn't to say that it's just fear. Some break ups are mutual and both parties have fallen out of love. It hurts, but that is far better than living together without the love there anymore.

December 28, 2018, 12:28:26 AM
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menchuuy58


What is your greatest fear in a relationship? My greatest fear is that i will love more than I am loved. I do not want to devote my life to someone who only tolerates me. I want to enjoy my relationship and know it will weather any storm that comes our way. What is your greatest fear in your relationship?
My  greatest fear in relationship is the losing of love and happiness. I believe that we are to be happy in relationships. When we lose that joy because of anger and other bad emotions, it is not good anymore. It is toxic.

January 14, 2019, 03:24:30 PM
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Wegatelove


The biggest fear in a relationship is that I stop learning, growing and exploring. Which of course happens when I take the little things for granted. When I assume it’s normal to get kisses or normal to get help because I always have.
I believe that all relations are spiritual and diving into this universe of exploring love is the never ending journey

January 26, 2019, 01:24:55 AM
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annalauraa21


My greatest fear is that the bliss of my "first love" will never be matched. Not sure if it's the age that makes first loves so enthralling or just experiencing it for the first time, but nothing measures and I have never been able to find a feeling that compares. I'm afraid that will never change.

January 26, 2019, 08:47:24 PM
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Whitwhat


Genuine interest. Me liking them more than they like me.

January 27, 2019, 08:22:43 PM
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NikkiLove


My fear is getting so close and attached to someone and they turn around and cheat on me.. I would be so hurt

January 31, 2019, 06:27:37 AM
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OneWayLove


What is your greatest fear in a relationship? My greatest fear is that i will love more than I am loved. I do not want to devote my life to someone who only tolerates me. I want to enjoy my relationship and know it will weather any storm that comes our way. What is your greatest fear in your relationship?
There is no fear in love for love casts out fear. You only fear when relationship is just based in lust for sex. Love accepts the person without any condition. True love is unconditional. Love covers multitude of sins. It conquers all. Love will weather the storm.

Yeah that's right. But i think this is not easy as it says. Some of us have bad experiences in a relationship. Me personally it is hard to trust someone. But we cannot allow fear in our relationships.
If the question is greatest fear in a relationship mine is that after you trust someone they will just leave you or cheat on you. https://oneandonlywayloveblog.weebly.com/onewaylove I think if the relationship is God-centered you have nothing to fear :)

March 10, 2019, 09:18:57 PM
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frozenheart


My biggest fear in a relationship is dishonesty. Communication is the most important part of a healthy relationship, and if that factor is absent then it's really easy for simply not telling your partner certain things to turn into straight up lying about certain things. That's really bad.

May 07, 2019, 04:31:07 PM
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AnsleyHope


My biggest fear is to be cheated on. I've been cheated on in every relationship I have been in. So seeing it happen again would scare me pretty bad

May 10, 2019, 08:00:00 AM
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Ariesxvi


I fear dishonesty. I can only trust their words and actions but if they’re lying, what can I trust? Everything will be doubted and I can’t tell right from wrong.

May 10, 2019, 07:52:28 PM
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Lakrisal


For me, I'd say I fear feeling alone. Feeling as if the other person does not care, or is shutting me out, or is not bothering to include me in different aspects of their lives. Don't get me wrong, I still think it's important to have your own interests and your own circle of friends, but I want to feel like the other person wants me in their life and wants to share their thoughts, feelings, dreams and fears with me.

May 11, 2019, 07:40:36 AM
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DestroytheHomeworld


Due to some pretty bad previous experiences I fear a lot of things in a relationship, mostly miscommunication causing a rift that can't be fixed. I am trying to overcome my fear of being used as a trophy or an object like I was previously. Its been difficult for me to adjust back to the mindset that not every guy out there is going to use me.

May 11, 2019, 08:25:07 PM
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Whitefeather23


To be cheated on. actually i recently broke up with my 4years boyfriend because he cheated and that fear Just got bigger  :(

May 12, 2019, 02:40:23 AM
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nckristen


My biggest fear is being cheated on. I've already been cheated on by 2 other relationships in the past. It's very damaging. Especially in the relationship I'm currently in, I absolutely love this man with everything in me. Him cheating would destroy me, and I don't think I'd ever find anyone else fit for me.

May 14, 2019, 02:45:41 AM
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Lookingfortheone77


Truthfully, losing myself.  Becoming so codependent that he just consumes me and I no longer care so much about myself, but rely on his feelings to feel good about myself.  Losing all self control.

May 22, 2019, 04:59:40 PM
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learninglove


Hi

I am Sanderson and I am here to give my best advice for those people who are much afraid in a relationship. I am also facing this type of fear in a relationship with a guy. some basics fear which is helping to increase much more fear on our face. like as the biggest fear is if we assume you will lose interest in your partner, or your partner will lose interest in you. other we have fear about if the communication aspect of a relationship is the biggest problem. I think one of my biggest fears is when you start talking to someone and you both clearly enjoy each other’s time, but you don’t want to be too clingy or assume anything so you don’t know how to take it to the next level. and I’ve been scared to fall in love because I am afraid it just won’t last. I’ve been so invested in a person before, totally in love, and watched before my eyes as he fell out of love with me every day. these are simple things but we have created big things it is just our thinking not happening like that is present. LoveLearnings is one of the website which is very helpful to get out of my fear. they will provide a step-by-step solution to the common dating problems, marriages, helping to improve your relationships, and other common issues in couples. If you are looking like these problems I am suggesting you should go to the best website which is helpful for you and where found your best solution!

May 25, 2019, 12:39:00 AM
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lyras66


My fear would be my significant other mistreating me. Let's say if I were to get with someone and they seemed all nice and loving from the start, but then the person begins to mistreat me after feeling like I could trust and feel safe with that person, then that would be the scary and damaging part for me.

May 27, 2019, 09:59:29 AM
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marriedgal


I fear my partner not being loyal to me . Trust is a very big factor and even a small mistake can ruin the relationship forever.

May 27, 2019, 11:35:37 PM
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bikergirl83@yahoo.com


I fear not finding a real, loving relationship but also I fear losing it once I have it.

May 29, 2019, 03:57:21 AM
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Laurel taylor


What is your greatest fear in a relationship? My greatest fear is that i will love more than I am loved. I do not want to devote my life to someone who only tolerates me. I want to enjoy my relationship and know it will weather any storm that comes our way. What is your greatest fear in your relationship?
tbh my greatest fear is getting cheated on . In my last relationship, I had to sort after the services of an hacker before I knew my ex was cheating

May 31, 2019, 12:37:45 PM
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Alakazam1976


I also have that fear. I also have a lot of hang ups so I guess I'm really insecure, I fear that my partner will find my insecurities unattractive and it will push them away. A vicious circle really.

June 12, 2019, 07:21:09 PM
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Cutie


Not much fears, maybe to be left, or maybe that i will not agree well with his family :)

June 21, 2019, 12:54:48 PM
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Scorpiobabe


I would have to say is my partner cheating on me. Number 1 fear of all. Makes me feel unwanted and not good enough.  When I'm spiritually, mentally,  physically connected to someone, I want to be all that person yearns for. I want to give all of myself to a person in hopes they do the same,  but if i do that and they cheat on me, i would feel empty,  used, and abused. 

June 27, 2019, 08:41:11 PM
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LonelyIN


My biggest fear, the thing of nightmares, is to be cheated on. I'm on my second marriage, and the first wife did that while I was deployed to Iraq. It crushed my soul and lost faith in women. Naturally I instantly divorced, but it caused me to not have any healthy relationship for many years. At least someone off Tinder was never going to cheat on me.

What's so scary is that it's so common, and the thought of someone literally inside your partner is pure horror. The act, the risk of diseases, the betrayal, lost of trust, always doubtful.

It can be an internal struggle of epic proportions. Are they really staying late "at work" evenings?

July 02, 2019, 03:02:51 PM
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cendulka


For me the biggest fear that I will lose the person and stay alone forever.

August 01, 2019, 10:46:59 AM
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star7786


Being someone's last option, or someone being with me with the purpose of leaving me once he finds someone he actually likes.

August 02, 2019, 01:09:18 AM
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ReneeOfHearts


My greatest fear is not expressing how I feel enough. Sometimes I think it seems like I don't care or that I don't need the same attention that most woman give or need.

August 02, 2019, 05:19:57 AM
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AshleyTuong


My most fear is get bored and got problem but no one want to share to fix that together. I fear the silent in relationship also, because Im a talkative one LOL
🌿🌿🌿

When there is life there is hope

August 21, 2019, 08:02:37 PM
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sam1989


Love overcomes all fear. If there is fear in relationship, I dont see it working in the long run. Love alone wins :)

August 21, 2019, 08:46:09 PM
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TheGoodGirl


Being cheated and having a guy break up with me.

August 24, 2019, 12:52:43 PM
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Jamesw742


My greatest fear is to be cheated on which i was but found out about it a little late.

I have suspected my wife has been cheating on me for awhile now. Just about a year ago she came home from work in tears. I asked her what was wrong. She then proceeded to tell me that she never wanted to marry me in the first place and thought her feelings for me would change. After almost 4 years of being together, 2 as a married couple, this was heartbreaking to me. She said she needed some space to figure herself out. Of course I agreed to this because I love her with all my heart. She always had her space and freedom to do her own thing, she just chose not to because she thought it's what I wanted.

Things were not improving, she was always at work late, sometimes not coming home until late in the evening to take me to work (I work a steady night job). On a normal week I would be lucky to spend a few hours total with her, and most of this time was spent sitting watching TV with her face buried in her phone ignoring me. We rarely made love and if we did she often looked bored, never looked at me, and when it was done she would leave the room immediately. It made me feel like less of a human being. I knew the love was gone.

What really made me suspicious was that she stopped talking to me all together, never saying a word on how her day was going, if she did talk to me all I could get was one or two word sentences or texts from her. I started doing a little snooping around I found a page on the internet

(http://walkersolution.mystrikingly.com/)

they helped me found out that my wife was cheating they gave me a lot I got to know everything that was going on but I cried I wasn't surprised but I felt very betrayed , I thought of my next move while thinking I saw her purse I noticed that her purse looked a bit more full than it normally did. I peeked inside and found a few condoms and lube (which both had been noticeably used). I never thought I could experience emotional pain like that before. Nothing in my life has hurt so bad.

September 01, 2019, 03:46:06 PM
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Misscherryb0mb


Ill never be enough.  Ill never love enough.  Everything will always be my fault

September 01, 2019, 04:10:02 PM
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keiraM


My greatest fear in relationship is the losing of interest. Or when someone feelings has changed for a person and doesn't love or have happiness in the relationship as much anymore while the partner may not feel the same way.

September 11, 2019, 07:28:34 AM
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Goneforever


My biggest fear is not finding love like I once had

September 12, 2019, 11:31:12 PM
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jlowe


Hi

What a great question. Get reading the book below. It unpicks your question from a man's perspective. The man that fears losing you.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Man-Mountain-Simple-Proven-Dreams-ebook/dp/B07XBFZSKB/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2JIJPHA2MAPET&keywords=man+mountain&qid=1568322909&sprefix=man+mount%2Caps%2C163&sr=8-3

Good Luck <3
Jane

 

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