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Author Topic: What do I choose? Love or religion?

October 02, 2018, 02:39:28 AM
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LiezelZoe29


Choosing someone to be with forever is difficult, most especially if you guys have different religious backgrounds. I am a Roman Catholic and my boyfriend is a Muslim. At first, this does not seem to be a problem for the both of us, but when we reached the age of maturity, when it’s time to settle down and form a family, conflict arose between us. For some reason, a Muslim is prohibited to marry someone outside from their denomination, unless his or her partner is baptized under Islam practices.

Because of this, I don’t know if we should settle with this or find another way to achieve legal union. Meanwhile, a foreign marriage advisor also stated that whatever principles you have doesn’t matter, as long as love and understanding are present, then everything should be fine. However, I also want our family to be united even just for this single event. And I certainly don’t want to be converted to Islam just to get married with him. What do I choose? Love or religion?

October 04, 2018, 01:48:53 PM
Reply #1

susanb


Choosing someone to be with forever is difficult, most especially if you guys have different religious backgrounds. I am a Roman Catholic and my boyfriend is a Muslim. At first, this does not seem to be a problem for the both of us, but when we reached the age of maturity, when it’s time to settle down and form a family, conflict arose between us. For some reason, a Muslim is prohibited to marry someone outside from their denomination, unless his or her partner is baptized under Islam practices.

Because of this, I don’t know if we should settle with this or find another way to achieve legal union. Meanwhile, a foreign marriage advisor also stated that whatever principles you have doesn’t matter, as long as love and understanding are present, then everything should be fine. However, I also want our family to be united even just for this single event. And I certainly don’t want to be converted to Islam just to get married with him. What do I choose? Love or religion?

That's a difficult one in which you can only make a decision. I'm not a religious person but if it were me, I'd most certainly choose love.

You can't help who you love and I think that love in itself is a very powerful thing in which we don't fully understand the meaning of!

Hope you get this sorted, keep us in the loop @LiezelZoe29 !

October 18, 2018, 10:42:23 AM
Reply #2

basil123


This is a hard decision. Do you think you could live as a happy family while both sticking to your beliefs? if this is not an option than you must ask yourself if you will find someone you will love more than him who resonates with your religion. if you truly believe that he is the one, than I would say be with him, however I don't think you should be put in a position of converting yourself for a man. If he loves you, he wouldn't tell you "we can only marry if your muslim" even if its his religion, if he would not change for you, don't change for him. I know my opinion is pretty in the middle, but I hope my statement helps a bit! 

November 02, 2018, 01:22:54 PM
Reply #3

junior90


This is an extremely hard decision. but in my opinion i would say love. Even though religion is important i believe you should be with someone that truly makes you happy. If you were to choose someone from your religion and you are unhappy with them, it has no point already.

November 06, 2018, 04:44:13 AM
Reply #4

Snow White


Your boyfriend is a Muslim. How important is his religion and traditions to him? Is he very close with his family? How are they feeling about him marrying outside of his religion? Are they pressuring him? Does he want you to convert?

Yes, they say love conquers all but, realistically life can be challenging and difficult. Do you love him enough to convert? This sounds like something that a lot of sacrifice and compromise would have to be made.


Today at 07:26:57 AM
Reply #5

babyshelle


I have never been in this kind of situation wherein I need to choose between love or religion. Honestly, it is hard to make a decision but if I were in your shoes, I would consider a lot of things aside from what I am feeling towards my boyfriend. We know that being in love is so special. It makes us happy, inspired, feel contented but it may also hurt us. Love can bring us into a situation we do not imagine to be engaged in. Like choosing between love or religion.

They say that loving a person means being able to offer yourself. Love is sacrifice. Love is giving all that you have. Love is understanding each other. Love is seeing and accepting what your partner can offer.
If your love to your boyfriend is so much strong, that you are willing to face all the conflicts and willing to be converted. Why not? As long as he will be there to support and guide you if you choose to be with him. Do you accept him as a whole including his religion?
On the other side, is he willing to sacrifice that much as you are?

There must be a lot of scenarios in your mind right now.
All you can do is to pray and seek for His guidance. He will always be there for you and will guide you to be able to come up with a decision.

Also, talk about it in your family with your parents. They know what is best for you.

 

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