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Author Topic: Unsure of my feelings about bf hiring a dating coach.

August 07, 2018, 12:29:47 AM
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imskeptical


Last night my boyfriend and I were talking in bed and he let slip that while we were still dating, he actually enlisted a top foreign dating coach. He told me he only did it because he didn’t know how to act around me and what he should do to take the relationship to the next stage. I’m not quite sure how to feel about this; I don’t know why, but I kind of feel cheated in a way. If he was seeing a coach, does this mean he was seeing other girls while we were still dating at that time? I know it probably doesn’t matter anymore, seeing as we did end up together, but I just can’t help but feel like I was somewhat lied to.

August 11, 2018, 06:50:13 PM
Reply #1

sidica


I understand your point, and I feel sorry that you have to deal with something that is making you feel insecure about him. However, think that he had the courage to confess you this, he could have kept it like a secret and then all would be fine. For me, that's admirable and requires integrity, love and as I said, courage.
Independent of he saw other girls through this couch situation, he is with you now, how does he treat you? because this day is better to trust the actions than the words.
As I see it you have two choices, you can accept the  fact that your man is not perfect and let go out this thought, or you can talk to him and ask him directly, that will help you feel better but you may hear something that you don't like or you may not, and he will feel insecure and prevented to share this kind of things about his past with you in the future because he doesn't want you to get upset.
What I would do is, I would tell him that I admire his honesty but I prefer that he doesn't share with me this kind of details from his past since I can't change the facts and I can't stop of thinking about it later.

August 11, 2018, 08:53:47 PM
Reply #2

jaymish


I see why you are worried.I also wonder why you need a dating coach.If your dates are not working out, that means that your not meeting and dating the right people. You don't need someone to tell you that trust life and follow the steps that it is showing you. I see why you are upset. Tell your boyfriend how you feel and ask him why he needed a dating coach. He may have a reasonable explanation, then make your decision based on his explanation.

 

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