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April 02, 2020, 03:49:21 PM
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shanaya


hi people this is going to be long but i really need help so my taurus guy approached me when i was already taken he was aware of that but i didnt paid any attention to his flirtings afterwards he started following me everywhere and all that sensul and deep starings joking around me being happy around me always trying to be around me following me literally everywhere he even used to follow me on my way back to hospital...and eventually i fell for him but tried to keep this thought aside as i was in a relationship and i thought this is infatuation and will go away but when he completed college he went to back his country and i terribly started missing him i sent him the request on instagram and he followed back but we never had any communication and apart from that i used to post stories indicating my feelings and he used to do the same no direct confession and through these posts once he said he will confess on the right time its 1.5 years of that saying but i was still waiting for him now the day before yesterday he unfollowed me on instagram so now i am not able to understand what should i take it as like now he wants to forget me and move on or wants me to directly ask him that why he unfollowed me so that any conversation could be started or what else could be?
when he was here in university he made very eveident that he likes me everyone knew even my boyfrnd...so wts wrong now why he unfollowed me now?"

April 03, 2020, 01:40:01 AM
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DreamGuyxo


I would say definitely not ask him on social media, but ask him in person concerning that he unfriended you and see how the conversation goes from there...

Sometimes when friendships get farther people think farther as well so it could be that he just might need a refresh in friendship history with you..

Think positive about this always

April 03, 2020, 05:26:02 AM
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LilyPouille


If a guy wants to be with you, he will. @DreamGuyxo is right,  you should ask him in person. If I can give you one advice is don't wait forever for him. Ask him and then move on, even if it hurts.
Feelings change over times, you feel for him but before you didn't, maybe things have changed for him. We don't know how he feels and that's why you should have the answer.

WIth Love

Lily
Live. Just live.

April 03, 2020, 06:04:48 AM
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shanaya


ok so Let me explain the whole scenario and chain of events😏...i was already in a relationshp but and i was fine with it..but this taurus guy who was my senior in college suddenly started shwing intrst in me i did'nt reciprocate as i ws already havng bf and my gut feeling were not ryt towards him but then he started all those that i have mentioned above and gradually i fell for him idk why but i did ,and i decided i will keep my feelings within me as we are two diffrnt nationalities culture and on top of that he was graduating and did'nt confess directly..but when i was back to univrsty i started missing his presence terribly i used to cry all the time lost all the intrest in everything and having hard time leaving my dorm room then i decided that i cannot take this anymore so i msgd him on social media initiating a nrml frndly convo that turned in another direction leading me to ask him about wt was between us? and does he like me? he said he just not like me he loves me then i aked why did'nt u confessed this earlier he said he needs time and he is waiting for the right time i said ok...and after that day we nver talked..he even mentioned that there are reasons of him not confessng and i understood the reason is my boyfrnd so i told my boyfrnd about all my feelings and and he said he cannot understand how could i fall for him and all those things he said he had a slight idea but was not sure that this will happen...i cried and cried but my bf he consoled me and told me that this guy is just playing with me nothing else and i should stop stressing over him then i thought maybe he is right and apart from that i did not had any other option but after 3 months that taurus guy started posting videos of him crying and delivering poetry that how much he loves me and he thinks i love my boyfrnd and wt he wants to do with me and i do not care about him i just think about myself so that when i felt his absence then i messsgd him and bla bla...i took that so srsly and i cried again but after that again nothing hppnd and i saw him getting engaged with his job and new life and slowly i was moving on as well for my bf as he was nt ready to leave me but suddnly in december he deleted pictures of him that i liked bt i did not bothr follwed by unfollwing me i was shocked but then i thought maybe he really wants to cut me off from his life i was sad but anyhow accepted my fate then again started posting stuffs like as if i hurted him so much and thats wt lead him to do this...but as i have not done anything i do not had any idea...but now his BFF has initiating a convo with me involving me in those dare games that involves posting pictures of each other...so i am thinking that taurus guy have really moved on i think because he nver i liked his any frndz of anyone talking to me...and i could not understand anything why he unfllwed me out of the blue and then blaming it all upon me if he really wants to move on it should not make a difference to him...

April 03, 2020, 06:07:15 AM
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shanaya


I would say definitely not ask him on social media, but ask him in person concerning that he unfriended you and see how the conversation goes from there...

Sometimes when friendships get farther people think farther as well so it could be that he just might need a refresh in friendship history with you..

Think positive about this always
thats the problem i cannot ask him in person as he lives in another country and i do not want to message him i feel embarassed or i think he will feel i am desperate...actually when he asked me to wait after that also i once messaged him asking hws life he saw the message and did not reply so i think he will do the same  if i ask him

April 03, 2020, 06:10:15 AM
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shanaya


If a guy wants to be with you, he will. @DreamGuyxo is right,  you should ask him in person. If I can give you one advice is don't wait forever for him. Ask him and then move on, even if it hurts.
Feelings change over times, you feel for him but before you didn't, maybe things have changed for him. We don't know how he feels and that's why you should have the answer.

WIth Love

Lily
yeah u might be right that his feelings has changed now or he decided to move on...then why after unfollowing also he is putting all the blames on me or atleast trying to show that i am responsible for all this i just dont get him , he is so confusing from the start

April 03, 2020, 06:20:48 AM
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LilyPouille


"then why after unfollowing also he is putting all the blames on me or atleast trying to show that i am responsible for all this i just dont get him , he is so confusing from the start" : if you want to have the answer you should ask him, because we don't know either, maybe he wants to put the blame on you to move on easily. Maybe.
Live. Just live.

April 03, 2020, 06:36:58 AM
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shanaya


"then why after unfollowing also he is putting all the blames on me or atleast trying to show that i am responsible for all this i just dont get him , he is so confusing from the start" : if you want to have the answer you should ask him, because we don't know either, maybe he wants to put the blame on you to move on easily. Maybe.

yeah i am sorry i think no one can answer me...and the one who can wont do that...but after all this hustle bustle of 2 years i concluded that he doesnt love me or maybe he nver did he was just enjoying the chase for satisfying his ego

April 04, 2020, 05:29:28 AM
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LilyPouille


I'm really sorry that you're hurting from this guy...What I was trying to say is that you will only have hypothesis on his behaviour and (I think) you would only be hurting yourself trying to know the answer by yourself  :'(.
Live. Just live.

April 04, 2020, 08:32:59 AM
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shanaya


yeah i knw u are right but its very difficult for me to forget him and move on although i m trying but this pandemic made it worse...being free is making me think about him all the time😓
but now i have decided once this pandemic will be over i will unfollow him too and will completely forget him

April 06, 2020, 06:55:17 AM
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LilyPouille


It's going to take time to heal from this relationship, enjoy your life, when you will want go on dates, see your family and friends!
Maybe during the pandemic try to do things for yourself and not overthinking about this guy. Don't hurt yourself more!
" i have decided once this pandemic will be over i will unfollow him too and will completely forget him" : good for you, if it's what make peace with yourself!

Keep us posted!!

Wish you the best!
Live. Just live.

 

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