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Author Topic: What should I do? How do I fix this?

July 05, 2019, 04:45:18 PM
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softthunder


My SO and I have been together for 3 years. For 18 months of that time, he was incarcerated. I supported him through that time. He just came home in December. He was only home for a month before he went out to a bar and cheated on me. He kissed another woman and was telling her he was single.

We took a break, b/c he asked for one. During that break he used dating apps like Tinder and OkCupid. When we got back together he was still using those apps for like a month before I found out, which I couldn’t understand.

Then in February I found out I was pregnant. A month goes by and he sneaks away with his friend to go out to a bar. I actually drove there to find him. I found his friend, but he was no where to be found so I knew he was up to no good.

he ended up being with this girl, making out and dancing with her all night. Saying he didn’t have a gf. I even saw a video of it the next day. I took him back because I’m pregnant and love him and want to be a family.

at this point I’ve become the gf that’s skeptical of her bf going out. My trust has been demolished. I kind of tightened the leash. I normally go with him when he goes out.

The times I haven’t he’s gotten girls #’s.  And it’s a slap in the face b/c it’s like he doesn’t realize how much being cheated on has hurt me. Now he always complains he feels trapped and can’t have a life. I just want to trust him and he won’t have to feel that way. How do I find middle ground where I can feel secure and he won’t feel trapped?

July 06, 2019, 02:58:21 PM
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My way around life


Am sorry for what you are going through. I would advice that you break up with him. I know its going to be hard because you love him and there's a baby on the way but this guy clearly doesn't value and respect you...you can't always be tagging along to clubs just to watch over him especially with your condition  and the fact that he doesn't see how he hurts you makes you wonder whether he loves you at all. Dont be convincing yourself its for the baby you guys can work out some arrangement of some kind because raising a child in that atmosphere is not a good option...anyway thats my opinion

July 12, 2019, 08:35:18 AM
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Grower


This guy sound like a total loser. Run, don't
waste your life on him, Just my 2 cents

July 16, 2019, 02:30:44 AM
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Reyven


He sounds very inconsiderate. How old are you?