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November 16, 2018, 05:59:54 PM
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Hi there,

First and foremost thank you for taking the time to read this. I appreciate anyone willing to listen.

I'm married have been for a few years now. I was, maybe still am, happy. For a while now we haven't been intimate as husband and wife and it breaks my heart. Besides that issue, he doesn't listen to what I have to say, I have to CONSTANTLY remind him of things and repeat myself over and over and over again... So he and I were on a rough patch so to speak. I have a friend going through a separation and hit me up. I was honest from the beginning and was open about what I was going through. Once he and I started talking it was like no time had gone by (he and I had a fling years ago) We hung out a couple of times and I felt romanced again. Like if I could take over the world. He made me feel like I was worth something. One day my friend out of the blue says maybe we shouldn't continue this etc. I agreed. Then one day we hung out and we had intercourse. A little bit of time has passed and now he's not responding or talking to me anymore. In the past he's done this before, we had never done anything physical, but there were two previous times where he calls me up, he makes me like him, then disappears...

So now IDK.... I want to at least be friends with this idiot because he's funny, but IDK... I've even confronted him asking him what is it he wanted and he avoided the question and started talking to me again... Me, being an idiot, I fell for it and forgot I even asked him that...

Why is he acting this way? Should I stay with my husband that has recently started trying to better himself?

Decisions decisions.

Thank you guys

November 18, 2018, 04:46:00 PM
Reply #1


The logical thing is to write this guy off because he's not interested in anything, and he has proved this to you more than once. Why he flakes on you? Who knows, but that isn't important. What is important is you focus on your marriage. I suggest couples counseling. Try a few sessions to help you both air your grievances in a neutral place with a professional that can guide you through the process.

November 20, 2018, 04:23:12 PM
Reply #2


I suggest you to forget your friend and get away from him. Clearly he's not serious, maybe he was just bored. Or maybe it's just a reaction from having problems with his current relationship. If I were you I will try to talk openly with your husband, trying to figure out what's wrong and why haven't you been intimate anymore. He's trying to be better, that at least is a proof that he is willing to stay in your marriage. Hope everything's well with you and this helps.


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