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Author Topic: Should I try get back with my ex?

February 23, 2020, 12:10:17 PM
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Hello. Im really wanting to get outsider advice on the situation. I apologise if its long, but I would really appreciate advice! For more information, I'm a female and 20 years old.

Basically, at the start of 2018 I confessed feelings to a long-time friend of mine who I only know online, let's call him Andrew. We entered a long distance relationship with each other. This was a bad idea for me to accept being his girlfriend. During the time, I was dealing with bad depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. I would always talk to him about problems, start arguments for no reason, doubt him for everything he said, thought he was only dating me because he felt pity, try break up with him. He would always help me out, give me advice, stay up late talking to me and think of ways to cheer me up, but nothing worked. The relationship lasted around 6 months until he broke up with me. He said that he just didn't want to be in a relationship anymore, and that in the future we could try again but just didn't want anything now. I freaked out, cried, and blocked him. Something which I soon regretted.

At the start of 2019, the break up urged me to start changing things about myself. I started seeing counsellors and physiatrists, doing new things, going out more, hanging out with my friends, travelling, writing and making art. All of these things changed me as a person. Depression cannot be cured, but it can be lessened. And for the entire year of 2019,i didn't feel any suicical thoughts at all, and thoughts of depression were extremely rare. Now, I care far more about my life and I want to, for the first time since my depression started, live a wonderful and happy life.

At the start of 2020,Andrew messaged me via a new account. He said he would like to start talking again. I was terrified for some time, and didn't reply for a few days. I did eventually though. Our conversations were awkward, however with my new confidence and extrovert personality, I tried my best to keep conversations going. Asking many questions, giving good replies, bringing up topics. His replies were small and limited, but over a few weeks they got better, and he seemed to get over his awkwardness as well.

Two days ago, I couldn't sleep after thinking about everything. I messaged him at 2am,for which he was still awake, apologising for the past relationship and my past self, telling him what I am like now. He said he was proud of me and that I am on the right path. He also said that he did not regret the past relationship. He said, it was difficult, but there were happy times.

The problem? I still have feelings for him. Despite not talking for an entire year, and me trying to move on, my feelings didn't lessen at all. In fact, I think I love him even more. Once he got past his awkwardness, our conversations were lovely and hilarious. They gave me a warm feeling in my stomach, calmed my nerves. I love talking to him.
I'm wondering. Should I attempt to get back into a relationship with him? Things got awkward after my apology as he now knows I still have feelings for him, but maybe after some time it could get better.
I really really love this boy, he is the sweetest person I have ever known, never gave up on me. I know I was an awful person to him, but now, if I had the opportunity to be in a relationship with him again, with my new personality and outlook on life, I would try my best to be a good partner to him.
Please let me know what you think, and thank you for reading.

March 07, 2020, 12:32:09 AM
Reply #1


hi gal, I was in your shoes before. and here's an article that really helped me when I was struggling at the bottom.
I hope it could give you some enlightenment and inspiration like it helped me  :)


wish you have a great future with your loved one.


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