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Author Topic: She wants an abortion to keep her dignity?

August 08, 2018, 10:07:05 AM
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My girlfriend got pregnant and she isn’t glad about it. She told me she’s going to abort the baby in order to keep her dignity and reputation. I guess Lima women really do take pride in one’s self. She doesn’t want her parents to get disappointed, so that’s why. I was pleading at her not to do such sin, but her decision is final. She won’t listen to me either. I, being a Christian, cannot let her do such thing. Doing premarital sex is misdeed and it’s enough. We cannot make another wrongdoing to cover one.

August 09, 2018, 11:20:31 AM
Reply #1


If she hasn't aborted your baby yet, don't stop convincing her to continue her pregnancy. Assure her that you'll take care of her and your future baby and you should mean that. But if she still don't listen to you and continue abortion, well, I think you should decide whether you still want to continue your relationship with her. It's clear that you are not on the same page. In a relationship, beliefs will always be an issue and if you know that you cannot compromise, you'll have a problem with that so better decide.

August 10, 2018, 04:53:51 AM
Reply #2


Abortion is not a solution to her problem and.it is a big sin to kill one life in order to keep your dignity and not to disappoint your parents. Tell to you girlfriend that no matter what, the baby is still important, re her that you can both face her problem together, tell her that you stay beside her no matter what.

August 10, 2018, 07:58:14 AM
Reply #3


She should not do that. Don't give up from stopping her and if ever she has not yet aborted the baby then you can still find a way to convince her. You are a christian so you might want to pray to God that she will change her mind.
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August 11, 2018, 01:55:21 AM
Reply #4


This may be a silly question to ask why don't you marry her. Anyway, if marriage is out of the question then maybe you can offer something like bringing your girlfriend to another place so people will not see her pregnant. That is the style of the people here when I was young. That was the time when getting pregnant and you are single is a mortal sin to the eyes of the society. The pregnant woman is sent abroad by her lover and after giving birth, the baby is given to someone else and the woman will continue with her life as a single. But now, I don't see that as an issue here anymore because the society has become permissive.

I agree that abortion is a great sin to do because that is tantamount to murder. I wish that you can do something to stop the abortion.

August 12, 2018, 02:53:38 PM
Reply #5


It really shows what kind of person your girlfriend is and what's more important to her and you and your baby is not one of it. I'm really sorry to say this, but this is what I think. A good person with real dignity will not let her baby be aborted because of selfishness. You should ask yourself if that kind of woman is the one you want to spend with for the rest of your life. You should do what you can to stop her or take full responsibility for the baby. Tell her you will take care of the baby without her being involved in the future. I feel sad for the baby if she/he will be killed by her own mother.

August 13, 2018, 10:49:03 AM
Reply #6


Abortion in some countries is already legal, but it doesn't mean that you will do it every time you have an unwanted pregnancy.

Doing an abortion won't keep her dignity, instead, it will give her dishonor and disrespect to life. I grow up in a Christian country, got pregnant before I got married but it never occurred in my mind that I will be killing the innocent child I am bearing.

 What I did was I face the reality that I am bearing a child and that life has nothing to do with the mistake I did.  I informed my boyfriend, now my husband, that I am bearing his child. I also have the same fear as with the girl, that I might disappoint my parents and family. Well, that is a given fact that being pregnant before the marriage could disappoint them but I still informed them.

The child that I bore is now 8 years old, and the fears that I have about losing my integrity and others would disrespect me is just a water under the bridge.

I was able to overcome the situation with the support of my husband and assured me that everything is going to be okay.

August 14, 2018, 06:20:20 AM
Reply #7


Abortion is not a solution to a mistake that both of you did. Also, abortion is not like a conceler that covers up your flaws. As a christian, I don't think that abortion is a way to call you a virgin woman. It happened, you should be responsible of your doings. It could be a consenquence that you should accept. It is like your a killing a person who has never seen the world.

August 17, 2018, 11:07:16 AM
Reply #8


Abortion is a killing act! Dont ever do an a abortion. The child inside her is precious how can she think the abortion is the solution to keep her dignity. How can she decide to kill the child who still did not see the beautiful world. She is selfish she only mind herself just to her dignity. Abortion will not keep her dignity many people will be mad at her. Please stop your girlfriend of wrong doing.

August 17, 2018, 11:18:43 AM
Reply #9


If she haven't committed the act, don't stop convincing her. Do everything to protect your baby. He/she is your priority. Tell her that you are willing to support her all the way. Did you try talking about marriage? If she is open to it, I guess you'll just have to do it. Marry her and care for her. The baby is an innocent who has every right to live. But if she has done the deed, you have to think very hard if this is the woman you want for the rest of your life. For me, dignity and reputation is not a reason to abort a baby. In the first place when you two are doing it, their will always be a chance she'll get pregnant. She should have thought about that before enjoying herself too much. Your girlfriend should be responsible enough to own up to it. On your part, your baby should come first.

August 18, 2018, 02:25:07 PM
Reply #10


What did you do about this? id you assured her that you will take care of her and the baby, or that you want to be a dad and a husband to her? Maybe she is insecure about you and that is why she doesn't want to have the baby.