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September 06, 2018, 09:54:03 AM
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suffocated35


My girlfriend is overly attached to me and I felt suffocated. She wants everything I do to be reported to her. Her jealousy is killing me too. I am a professional photographer and she’s working as a fiction editor. One time she had seen me talking to some clients who are Peru ladies. We were talking about the upcoming photoshoot for their friend’s wedding then my girlfriend suddenly came up from nowhere--fuming mad. She thought I was flirting with them. It ended up with the clients turning their back at me. She’s sometimes maddening though.


September 06, 2018, 05:24:55 PM
Reply #1

goodevening


My girlfriend is overly attached to me and I felt suffocated. She wants everything I do to be reported to her. Her jealousy is killing me too. I am a professional photographer and she’s working as a fiction editor. One time she had seen me talking to some clients who are Peru ladies. We were talking about the upcoming photoshoot for their friend’s wedding then my girlfriend suddenly came up from nowhere--fuming mad. She thought I was flirting with them. It ended up with the clients turning their back at me. She’s sometimes maddening though.

It isn't a bad thing that she's attached to you, as she may just like you a lot (which is a good thing.

But yes, I completely agree with you on the jealousy part, she needs to get her self-esteem together because her insecurities will start eating her apart.

That doesn't sound good, I think you should probably have a chat with her?

September 07, 2018, 09:34:23 AM
Reply #2

suffocated35


I know, right. If this continues, this relationship is not healthy anymore. I better talk to her or end this as soon as possible. Thanks!

September 07, 2018, 05:46:07 PM
Reply #3

goodevening


I know, right. If this continues, this relationship is not healthy anymore. I better talk to her or end this as soon as possible. Thanks!

On the positive side though, it could be that she's really into you and that she's afraid of losing you!

She may be a keeper, you just need to reassure her.

November 24, 2018, 03:37:35 PM
Reply #4

Lexcerta


I personally think that you should make her understand that your job involves a lot of interaction with other women. It is not very wise to be under pressure to always report to your girlfriend whatever that you do. Its not a very healthy relationship if you are under that condition.

December 03, 2018, 11:48:01 PM
Reply #5

Stretchingheart


I admit that i  have this inner rage of possessiveness and insecurity. I don't ask him where he is all the time, but frankly i kind of want to know. He usually just mentions where he is on his own, and i find that comforting about him. Not that he feels obligated to, but because I think he wants to make me feel safe.
I always tell him how i feel, but I also don't like that feeling in me. Though I know i have been immature about bringing my feelings up, he has told me that the jealousy makes him feel that I care in a way.

December 04, 2018, 10:35:02 PM
Reply #6

a.girl.who.loves.dogs


I would, if you have not already, have a serious talk with her discussing your concerns with her jealously and hear her out on why she acts out the way she does. Express to her that her jealously and controlling behavior is not only becoming overwhelming for you personally, but it is now interfering with your livelihood and that is something you are not okay with (or should not be okay with at least)
Has there ever been an instance in the past that would prompt such skepticism in your actions or might have lost her trust a bit? If not, I would definitely have a serious talk with her stating that while she may just be deeply passionate about the relationship and love you a lot, her behavior is overwhelming and that she needs to lessen her grip on your life.

Having a serious, ideally face-to-face, conversation discussing the issue with her could do wonders for both of you, or at least release inner thoughts of hers that she had not otherwise expressed earlier on. (which could lend some insight as to why she acts her way)