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May 31, 2019, 09:03:09 PM
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So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a yr now. We used to date before like 8 yrs ago and we broke up. We found our way back to each other and I couldn't more happy. So the thing that gets me is that out of this yr he's only given me oral sex once and I was completely wasted that I dnt even remember him doing it. Needless to say he has not done it any time after that. I continue to give him oral sex with no questions asked. I guess what I really want to know is how can I ask him why he doesn't do it without the convo going left. He can get offended quickly sometimes depending on the subject. I just want to know how to approach the situation. Our sex life is great and there are no real flaws, just sometimes I wouldn't mind a little pleasure also. Someone help please??

June 01, 2019, 06:37:37 PM
Reply #1



I would say just tell him that he is great in bed and that your sex life is good and that you would love it if he gives you more oral sex. There wouldn't be any problem. especially if you want to have sex after that anyway.

June 02, 2019, 07:49:23 AM
Reply #2


Thats true, I just have a hard time finding the right words to say. I dnt have a problem with communication, not soo much as communicating but gathering my thoughts

June 07, 2019, 02:32:13 PM
Reply #3


Just casually make him aware that you sure do wish you could remember what it was like that one time he did it.  Maybe he will remind you.

June 07, 2019, 04:26:43 PM
Reply #4


After being together as long as y'all have there shouldn't be any problem with you letting him know you want more oral sex. If the problem is really that he might get offended, you should be able to say something that would hype him up to want to do it again. Like telling him how good he is at.
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June 10, 2019, 01:14:31 AM
Reply #5


Maybe let him know you want to “spice things up” since he doesn’t do it to you often? Maybe that could spark something up!

June 10, 2019, 07:34:10 AM
Reply #6


I say there’s no harm in just being honest and saying point blank that that’s something you want more of. Here’s the thing, we all deserve to get out of a relationship what we want/need to be happy as long as it’s normal, and feeling satisfied sexually can seriously affect a relationship. Not being satisfied can add a lot of tension and pressure. Be honest and tell your partner that you want to loosen up and have more fun. Maybe play a game, or spin it in a give-take way, like “if you do this for me, I’ll do this AND this for you, wink wink” to keep things fun.

But ultimately - if you lay it all out there and they have a serious problem with it... you’ll have to do some thinking on exactly how important it is to you and if it makes or breaks things for you. Good luck!

June 16, 2019, 09:35:54 AM
Reply #7


Just ask him?

When im laying with my partner and she starts to make weird gestures rather than just saying whats she wants it completly kills the mood.

June 20, 2019, 08:50:51 PM
Reply #8


If I were you, I'd just try my best to discuss this with my boyfriend and express that desire to him. Honesty is always best. :)

June 22, 2019, 08:57:35 AM
Reply #9


Sometime people just have an aversion or inexperience with certain
things (especially sex). Perhaps if you expressed how hot and turned
on you get just thinking about him going down on you, he might actually
go for it. You might also do some special trim work or shaving in  your
lady garden and somewhere short of wasted, tell him how you have specially
fixed it up for him and what you would like him to do. Good luck and may
a severe tongue lashing be in your future.

June 26, 2019, 12:27:12 PM
Reply #10


It’s only fair you both are getting what you want out of this sexually. Next time you are about to have sex, I would look him in the eye and ask him to do it while both aroused.

June 27, 2019, 03:26:51 PM
Reply #11


Hmm, the irony because that's my favorite thing as a guy, both receiving but especially giving. I would literally forgo getting one just to give it.

Given that it has been so long, perhaps he had ran into a bad encounter, and it's not really you? Or perhaps it's on his mind that you've been given it so much better over the years, and doesn't want to risk embarrassment.

My 20 yr old self and 30's now completely differs sexually from my confidence, experience, and interests. I was a bit selfish in my early years, and now I've learned to do the opposite. You want someone that passionately wants to pleasure you, not just because it's expected.

My advice, if you're not going to talk, is to take control of the situation. What happens during 69? Does he just sit there looking at you? What happens if you start rubbing his mouth as you're there?

June 30, 2019, 03:16:56 AM
Reply #12


Based on you basically saying you want the relationship to continue, but want to address the issue without a bad reaction, I would say that maybe during foreplay, you could tell him that you had a dream about him giving you oral and it got you really hot... Describe how great you imagined it was and play with his parts while you are talking to him.  Then just see how he reacts...  If no reaction, don't confront and keep things going.  Then maybe later, you could talk to him about it away from the bedroom... Again, not in a confrontational way if you want to keep the relationship going.


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