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September 25, 2018, 09:42:31 AM
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alexacole


Two months after delivering my twins, I told my husband I will be working again to help him with the household expenses but he didn’t agree. When the twins turned 2, I told him that I should really work because sometimes his salary is not enough to suffice all the expenses. He’s working as a chef in a foreign resto here in our place and his income is never enough. We should both work especially if the kids will be sent to school but he doesn’t want me to. When I told him again that I want to work, he got mad or maybe a bit insulted. He just wants me to stay at home while taking care of the kids. He didn’t get that I wanted to help him. I don’t want to be just sitting in the house while waiting for him to come home after a tiring work. How can I make him agree?

September 25, 2018, 01:11:41 PM
Reply #1

goodevening


Two months after delivering my twins, I told my husband I will be working again to help him with the household expenses but he didn’t agree. When the twins turned 2, I told him that I should really work because sometimes his salary is not enough to suffice all the expenses. He’s working as a chef in a foreign resto here in our place and his income is never enough. We should both work especially if the kids will be sent to school but he doesn’t want me to. When I told him again that I want to work, he got mad or maybe a bit insulted. He just wants me to stay at home while taking care of the kids. He didn’t get that I wanted to help him. I don’t want to be just sitting in the house while waiting for him to come home after a tiring work. How can I make him agree?

It's a difficult one because he probably wants his kids to grow up with their mother by their side.

My mother was the same, she wanted to always be with me when I was in my infancy to not miss a second of my childhood.

Have you had a chance to sit down and speak to him about how you feel on the subject? Do you have any update?

September 26, 2018, 08:44:56 AM
Reply #2

alexacole


I know that every mother has to be with their children until then, however, I was thinking that my husband's income would not suffice our expenses especially if the twins will be sent to school. If that time comes, it would me more difficult for me to just sit in the house. Do you understand my worry right? Is that wrong? I haven't talk to him about this seriously since he often gets mad whenever I mention about the job thing.

November 20, 2018, 06:18:13 PM
Reply #3

sandythecat


Two months after delivering my twins, I told my husband I will be working again to help him with the household expenses but he didn’t agree. When the twins turned 2, I told him that I should really work because sometimes his salary is not enough to suffice all the expenses. He’s working as a chef in a foreign resto here in our place and his income is never enough. We should both work especially if the kids will be sent to school but he doesn’t want me to. When I told him again that I want to work, he got mad or maybe a bit insulted. He just wants me to stay at home while taking care of the kids. He didn’t get that I wanted to help him. I don’t want to be just sitting in the house while waiting for him to come home after a tiring work. How can I make him agree?

Hello there.
I understand your insecurities about your financial issues. Having one child needs a lot of money let alone twins. You will need double the money, and we're talking big numbers here especially when the twins have to go to school. I also understand that your husband is probably worried that the twins are not having the attentions and love they need without you beside them while also worried about not making enough money for you and the twins. Yes, probably he's thinking about it too.
There are other options too. You can try to work from home. Manage an online shop or things like writing articles and get paid. It seems to be one of the best options you can try because then you don't have to leave home and the twins. Of course you need to discuss the matter with him first. Have you ever talked to him in neutral emotional state about this? Start the conversation by saying: I understand your worries, I worry too. That way you won't seem like you only want to go out and leave the twins.
Hope this helps :)

 

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