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Author Topic: My head and my heart want opposite things I’m so confused

April 11, 2019, 09:52:59 AM
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SandraSpears


 
I have been dating this guy very regularly for three months now and I thought everything was going well until out of the blue on Sunday he asked to meet me and said he usually knows how serious he feels about someone but right now he does not feel serious about me. He said that he gets a compulsion to see someone every day at this point and does not have that with me. This is because he said I have everything he could want in a girl. He then said he would like us to just be friends. I said was interested in someone else or was friends a cop out to just be nice. He said no because he genuinely likes me but doesn’t want to block my blessings if he is not sure.
At first I was really upset and then I was confused. So I asked him later if he could just say we were done in order to put my mind at rest. He asked me if I was done and I said well I don’t want to be but I can’t always be confused. He then said he was for the sake of solidity. I said well then why did you not say that before and he said it is not exactly what he wants but he doesn’t want to hurt me. I’m so hurt and confused because literally the morning of we were joking as normal and three days earlier he was talking about date nights and saying stuff like “if it’s with you then I’m keen”. My friends say ditch him and I know it’s the right thing but my heart is filled with this anxiety that I just can’t see past this and I care about him

April 17, 2019, 05:08:21 AM
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Babyblues0927


Remember that usually if your mind and heart aren't in agreement your mind has usually made the right choice but it will hurt so you're trying to find an excuse not to obey.

April 25, 2019, 04:46:08 PM
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Pureintentions22


I'm sorry to hear of this confusion. I understand. From my own experience, you need to really think about what is going to make YOU happy and fulfilled. The saying if you set it free amd it comes back to you its yours is sometimes where we need to start. Don't ghost him- maybe just expain how your feeling and state that you deserve to know, be hapoy amd truely loved amd if hes not ready then youre going to let him go and if he decides that he needs you in his life amd you decide at that point that is the right thing to do for you then do it. You may have a few weeks apart and realize youre better off without him. In the meantime- work on self love. Men can mess with out hearts pretty good. Sending love❤

 

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