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Author Topic: My fiance dumped me on social media.

May 04, 2019, 11:31:41 AM
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catlady063


My ex-fiance and I have been dating for a couple of months and we got engaged quickly. We genuinely loved each other no doubt but for the most part, I was not really showing him enough attention, respect, love and affection. I have alot of stress on my plate but I was so secured of our relationship that I was compromising it all the time. I could have treated him better for sure. We've been constantly fighting lately, we were just not seeing eye to eye, the part that he complained about the most was, I was not able to handle our fights in the best way possible. My ex-fiance had this tendency to always push me to my limits, in the sense, everytime I was very upset, he would not leave me alone and just want to talk about it, never was a time when he tried to let me calm down first before trying to sort the issue out, even if I begged him to give me a minute to cool down, because I knew better, he won't take no for an answer. Fast forward, we had a disagreement few days ago about his poor communication lately, he was way better, but I think I can blame myself for that because I was not giving him enough attention. We were not able to sort out the issue that morning that he showed up at my house and the next thing I know, he changed his social media profile picture, removed our photo together, changed his engaged status to single. Again, I did not handle the situation the best way, I went to his house, removed all my stuff and gave him back the ring, because of course I just got dumped and worst, on his social media account. I was upset, told him he's pathetic for always posting our personal issues on social media, as he had that habit of sharing his thoughts to the world when we fight sometimes. I called him after a few hours when I could think better, but he did not want to talk to me, had to beg for him to pick up the phone, which reminded me of myself too, like how I was to him sometimes. He did not want to talk to me, not want to discuss about it, he just told me he had enough of it, even dropped the call. This happened last Wednesday night, and ever since then, I did not contact him as he's very upset. I want to know if this can be fixed. I really want to fix it, I don't want to throw this away without even trying to work it out. This is our first big break up, before, it was just me all the time trying to leave his house, cancelling the engagement, but not close to breaking up with him. The problem was me, I was too complacent of the relationship that I felt like I did not have to work on it as my energy was so used up in dealing with other stress that I have right now. It's been 3 days of no contact so far. I want to know if there is still a chance of him changing his mind as this is the first time he ever did this to me.

May 06, 2019, 05:12:36 AM
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aksam4all


Since you know  the genesis of the problem. Walk to him/her and apologise. Promise you will always be there for him/her

May 06, 2019, 10:51:14 AM
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pinkflower


Oh my gosh..I think you did too much damage. :(

You have given him too many reasons to end it.
You were not giving him enough attention as it was, then you call him pathetic, you give him his stuff back.

It sounds like a lot.

What it all comes down to is who he is and what he forgives or doesn't forgive. But for the majority of people, I think it would be too much and they wouldn't come back.

May 22, 2019, 07:59:00 AM
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catlady063


We have had our communication on and off and now he blocked me. I sent him a lengthy message with my apology 5 days after the breakup and we met up for dinner supposedly to talk about what had happened but I think everything is so fresh for him Anyway, moving forward, I did make effort to win him back, went to his house twice, talked to him, and I did all these because one time he told me that although I was sorry, I never really did anything to fix the situation and never made any effort to get him back and he said he is done chasing and doing the work to fix it whenever there is a problem. I did the long talk, apologizing repeatedly and assuring him things will be different but then he is so confusing because doing what he was expecting from me, he would say he is not really sure right now if he wants to work it out again, he does not know if I should keep trying but when I tell him I will just leave him alone then, he would say he doesn't know if that's what he wants also, he just simply does not know what he wants at this point but he says he misses alot of things about us but also enjoys the peace being alone. I think I will just leave him alone for good this time.

 

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