This is gonna be a long story, so I’m going to try and summarize.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little while now, and he just recently proposed to me and we’re in the process of house hunting. Very exciting, and I’m super happy to be with him.
Although, there’s been some problems with a female friend/former flame if you will. From what I’ve been told, they’ve known each other since high school and he’s had a crush on her, and vice versa. He explained it like they’ve been going in circles for years, never dating but one always liked the other on and off but dated other people in between and he had even professed love to her at one point. (Of course I don’t know all the details). So, they’ve communicated several times throughout our relationship mainly on Snapchat and I’ve seen it. I told him that it makes me uncomfortable just given the circumstances, and I wouldn’t talk to somebody I had former feelings for while I was happily in a relationship but that’s just me. He seemed to understand how I felt, but he would still do it, and I’m not sure who reaches out to who. I’ve continued to express my discomfort with it, and at one point he said he would stop talking to her and I believe he did for awhile and I felt okay. Then as of two weeks ago, he told me that she reached out to him (I think) and they chatted, she graduated school and is moving to Michigan for a job, and he told her we were engaged supposedly, so I appreciated him telling me the truth and that they communicated. He also said he doesn’t expect to hear from her for a while. Then, like three days ago, I saw she was added back on his friends list, which normally he’ll delete her after they’re done talking I believe. So naturally seeing that made me believe they were communicating again, and it just sent me into negative feelings and naturally I spiraled to panicking. I have yet to talk to him about it, because I don’t even know what to say or ask. It just seems weird to me because if they have innocent conversation why can’t they talk like when I’m around, or why does she have to be deleted after? I don’t know if I’m exaggerating or not. I would just appreciate some outside thoughts on this and how to approach it.

Same here as far as sounding insensitive, but your bf should respect you about how u feel. Granted they may not have dated but if its making you uncomfy then maybe he doesn't fully respect ur feelings. Obviously he wants to be with you or he wouldn't have proposed to you. I would sit both of them down and explain how you feel to both of them that way everyone is on the same page. If you see no improvement then maybe both of you should have a conversation. I've never been married but I wouldn't want to go into a marriage if the way I felt about something just gets swept under the rug. Good luck to you and I hope I helped even if it was a little.