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Author Topic: My boyfriend and I can't move on from our past, and he doesn't say he loves me.

May 18, 2019, 04:28:11 AM
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When my boyfriend (22) and I (22) started dating, we were already fighting about ridiculous things, and it came to a point where he broke up with me after almost two months of dating. He broke up with me because he found out who I was talking to before I even met him (fyi he was also talking to a girl before he even met me). He doesn't know the guy, and I don't know why he broke up with me over something I can't even control since it's already in my past, but he admitted that he was immature for breaking up with me 'cause of that. I also found out that he was already on Tinder one day before we officially broke up.

So, we were broken up for one month. He got a new girlfriend, and I was talking to someone new. He suddenly wanted to hang out one month after we broke up. He said he missed me. He already broke up with his girlfriend of three weeks (I think?), and I already stopped talking to the guy I was "kinda" dating. My boyfriend and I knew that he had a girlfriend, and I was talking to someone new that one month we were broken up. But everything changed when he found out about the guy who I was talking too. It turns out that they go to the same gym. They're not friends, but they just see each other from time to time at the gym. He said he can't move on from my past if he kept on seeing my past in the gym. Gym is like his life so he's blaming me for ruining it. We've been fighting about that for months, about my past, and also his past. I was also hurt that he got a girlfriend right after we broke up that time. I felt that I was easily replaceable. He said that I was his first choice, but I don't even wanna be an option. Why should I be an option?

Anyway, we have broken up and gotten back together a number of times because our past. We just can't seem to move on from it. He also doesn't say he loves me even though we've already been dating for 10 months. I started saying it before, but I stopped because he almost never says it back to me. He only says he loves me when we're on the verge of breaking up and we're sending all those long messages. But on a normal day, we would never say he loves me. I confronted him about it, but he told me that he can't say he loves me because he always see the guy I talked to at the gym. So now, I'm just getting more confused because I don't know if he really loves me. His past still hurts me a lot. We both agree that our relationship is not normal, since we don't even say I love you like normal couples do. He also said that our relationship will never be normal, but we both know that we don't want to lose each other. I don't want to lose him, and at the same time, I don't wanna feel this way anymore. Do you think it's still worth continuing this relationship?
« Last Edit: May 18, 2019, 04:33:58 AM by MC2019 »

May 18, 2019, 09:50:43 AM
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Allicia


Breaking up and reconnecting is not a pleasant thing. If you really love your boyfriend you shoud have a serious talk about your desires, thoughts and your future together redefining your relationship and setting new mutual goals and limits.

 

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