Hi all,
So this might be a bit of a difficult post, but I'm so confused that it's impacting my life, and I have no one to talk to. So any advice would be much appreciated.
I've recently started a new job. I'm married and 31 years old. My colleague is 44 and is also married. I'm quite attracted to him anyway, but his behaviour confuses me. He follows me around a lot, always wants to talk to me and wants to spend lunch together. He makes sexual jokes towards me, compliments me, tells me he misses me when we aren't in work etc. He also touches me quite a bit, whether it be leaning in, touching my hand or leg, and more recently, holding my hand and trying to hug me. He tries to look after me quite a bit and tells me how much he cares about me and things.
On the surface it seems like he's flirting, but then he'll tell me how he gets on better with women than men, and how he always get accused of having affairs because of his friendship with them. He also tells me that he touches people without realising sometimes, but I've watched him with our other female colleagues and he doesnt do it to them.
It's at a point now where I'm enjoying the affection he gives me but so confused at the same time. I know I should tell him to back off, but maybe I'm misreading things and he doesn't fancy me, he's just being friendly. My head is a mess and I can't stop thinking about him. I feel so guilty because we are both married, but I think a big part of how I'm feeling is due to my marriage being dead long before I even met my colleague. I don't think I've experienced any form of affection for several years.
A part of me thinks I'm misreading signals from this man because it's what I want to believe, rather than what his intentions actually are.
Any advice would be appreciated!