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Author Topic: Is it okay to wait to a man?

April 20, 2018, 07:50:00 AM
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jeniffer26


Well, waiting is part of love. If you truly love that person no matter how long it takes you will surely wait. But when you wait there's a lot of "what if's" you will encounter. What if He doesn't really love me, What if I am waiting for nothing, What if I am waiting for someone who loves someone else and many more. Only the strong one succeed.

April 20, 2018, 08:12:13 AM
Reply #1

Yannie


Waiting is not bad I guess. The question is for how long are you going to wait for him? In my perspective, I'd set a time frame for the waiting process, like 3 to 6 months perhaps. If nothing happens during that time frame, I will confront him on how exactly he feels for me and if I still need to wait for him. I wouldn't care if it would be awkward as long as I can find the answers to questions and doubts in my head. Only he can answer to those questions.

July 26, 2018, 02:05:09 PM
Reply #2

RoseKaizer


Yes it is okay to wait with a man if you know that it will worth the wait..If you really love that man you are willing to wait no matter how long was it takes.

July 26, 2018, 05:43:27 PM
Reply #3

QueenFarLou


I hope you were more specific with what you are actually "waiting" for. Are you in a relationship with this guy? Or you're still waiting for him to make the first move? I mean patience is a virtue yes, but what exactly is this whole waiting for?

August 03, 2018, 05:37:23 PM
Reply #4

sidica


I think waiting is a normal part of life, and love is not the exception to this rule. However, when you wait for something you also have an expectation of the results. In base of that ask to yourself, what are you waiting for?, are you been objective about the relationship and your expectations are realistic?, have you talked to this person or has he shown you with actions that you are important for him, and he wants you in the long term?, do you have interests in common like: living together, traveling, or staying in certain place?, do you do things together and you could tell that you have a good communication channel ?, are you prepared for a rejection in case that he changes his mind about you?, do you have a plan B, that justify the time invested in case that the relationship doesn't work out?.
Remember that a relationship is a thing of two people and you can't control your partner, so if you have decided to wait after asking yourself those questions because you are positive about it, then do it, and don’t use other relationship like a mirror because every relationship is unique and different, there are not two people equal. There are people who break up, but there are also many people who live happily and share their lives. Do what you think is best and make sure to live your own life and to be a happy person. Your boyfriend should amplify a happiness that you already have, this way you are not putting all that pressure on your man, and there's a good chance that he will want to stay because you are not an extra charge, you are a happy person and is eassy to enjoy your company.

August 04, 2018, 10:07:50 AM
Reply #5

Corzhens


What I understand in this discussion is for a woman to patiently wait for Mr. Right. In this modern era, I don't think that is a good attitude unless you are still young like a teenager. But for those women who are past 25, I guess you have to rethink your option. My advice is for you to socialize. Meet people particularly qualified men for your purpose. It is not flirting though but just getting to meet people. And from there on, it will come naturally if a man will be attracted to you. Of course you need to look your best so there is no reason for the man to avoid you.

August 07, 2018, 09:25:13 AM
Reply #6

huggypillows


I'm so confused there is a man told me to wait for 4 years .. and he really end up everything the connecting us. he told me to respect his decision . Its hard specially if I'm used to his existence that he always there. I'm afraid that he might forget me and we will never see each other after 4 years. it really breaking my heart.

August 07, 2018, 10:41:36 AM
Reply #7

Rita101


What I understand in this discussion is for a woman to patiently wait for Mr. Right. In this modern era, I don't think that is a good attitude unless you are still young like a teenager. But for those women who are past 25, I guess you have to rethink your option. My advice is for you to socialize. Meet people particularly qualified men for your purpose. It is not flirting though but just getting to meet people. And from there on, it will come naturally if a man will be attracted to you. Of course you need to look your best so there is no reason for the man to avoid you.

It's a good to have the loyalty to wait on the man whom you supposedly love, there is nothing wrong with doing that but I would like to stress that waiting for a man is more favorable when you're a lot younger especially when you are still a teenager or in your early 20's. Once you have crossed 25 years, it's not advisable to wait on any man no matter how much you claim to love him.

August 08, 2018, 05:40:31 AM
Reply #8

nekonieden


it's okay to wait as long as you can manage waiting for him for a long time. If nothing happens then you may want to move on just focus on yourself first and don't think too much waiting for him. Maybe at the right time he will finally court you.
NekoniEden <3

August 12, 2018, 04:23:34 AM
Reply #9

ajahcuizon


If the man is worth the wait, then it is okay to wait for that man. On that way, you're also proving to him how deep and committed you are to him. All people needs time for them to reach their own desires, for me, waiting for him would be the greatest effort a woman could give to her man. Waiting is never an task. But if you really love that man, you'll consider to wait for him instead of letting him go just because you can't wait.
Time is constant we can't do anything to change it, but what we can decide if what we'll do in having that time.

August 13, 2018, 10:58:36 PM
Reply #10

Jennhereforlove


Hi, I couldn't help but notice your post.  Have you ever tried using some proven psychology to try and help kick-start his desire to want to move ahead with you more quickly?  I really think waiting is okay but at some point you need to get what you want too.  If adding a little psychology into the mix doesn't move things along maybe your guy just isn't in a place where he wants that kind of commitment.

There's a really great relationship expert Amy North and she always talks about things you can do to help a guy along.  You might even find this article she wrote helpful. https://attractiontheories.com/

August 15, 2018, 06:35:40 AM
Reply #11

Lissiel


As long as you know to yourself that whom you are waiting for is worth it, there's nothing wrong with that, in fact it shows loyalty. But if the person has already someone else, that will be depending on you. Waiting someone who won't come for you is like you are waiting someone to hurt you. Yes, we always will never know what will happen. But I hope you won't limit yourself to meet someone new and be happy.

August 15, 2018, 06:32:29 PM
Reply #12

Steve5


What I understand in this discussion is for a woman to patiently wait for Mr. Right. In this modern era, I don't think that is a good attitude unless you are still young like a teenager. But for those women who are past 25, I guess you have to rethink your option. My advice is for you to socialize. Meet people particularly qualified men for your purpose. It is not flirting though but just getting to meet people. And from there on, it will come naturally if a man will be attracted to you. Of course you need to look your best so there is no reason for the man to avoid you.

That's a very nice way to put it. I guess younger people have the privilege to wait for the right one. Older people need to be more realistic with their expectations. Especially, since they're not getting any younger. You have to actively choose to find your perfect guy.

August 19, 2018, 11:53:42 AM
Reply #13

anyone01


Love is not a race waiting patiently for a person to come in your life is worth it no matter how long it takes. If you destined for each other then you will be and if not then its not. Its better to wait for the right one than the wrong person.

August 23, 2018, 03:58:48 PM
Reply #14

Gelai


For me it depends if the man you love will give you an assurance for you to wait..but if the man still refusing you..then dont.
Don't lock your heart to a man that doesn't want to be with you.
Find a man who is seriously fighting and expressing his love for you..
Find a man who is worth waiting for...
I experienced that..but in my case..i left him broken ..but then i realized that i love him so much even he hurt me a lot when we still in a relationship..
And now i hurt him back...
I want him back so i try to court him and then he said that i still have a chance to prove myself to him.
But I need to wait he said cause i gave him so much pain.
It takes time to heal.
That is why until now im still hoping that we will be together again.

 

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