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Author Topic: Is it him being insecure or am I being overly sensitive?

November 09, 2019, 05:14:00 PM
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So just a background on my past relationships, I have tended to be with very arrogant men in the past and being someone who hasn't had the highest self esteem from the start those relationships have made me feel worse about myself. Jump to my current relationship, the guy I am with is a good man, very loving, respectful and supportive of me. I happen to be more stable in my career and he is in the situation of currently going back to school to pursue something bigger career wise. He is a confident guy but I never noticed any arrogance or overly confident attitudes. Lately I feel very alone. This past year in his classes he's really formed good relationships with some of his fellow classmates and teachers. He comes home everyday talks mostly about them and how one person said he's super smart, or how the teachers say he's the most genuine person, or how random girls ask him to tutor them in a class. he's a good looking guy and he also works with a lot of younger girls and again he's a lot older and is back in college so again around a lot of younger girls. Its clear he gets attention. He will even joke when I am saying oh I'm sure those students like you and he will laugh and say probably. I don't know maybe its my insecurity that gets the best of me, but lately with all these compliments he shares with me everyday I feel like I am not really a priority that I don't give him confidence. I am in a more successful position than he is and I don't know if that's his way of making himself feel better. I just am one of those people who doesn't really give a second though to someone complementing me, I don't run home and share every single instance that someone says something nice to me every day. Any honest advice or similar experiences would be great

November 11, 2019, 04:23:57 AM
Reply #1

Captain Black

I think its insecurities rather than being over sensitive. Possibly a bit of a trust issue as well. If its a newish relationship then, the trust side of things should improve over time .You need to accept that your guy is a good looking guy and will get admirers whenever he is at "work" or even walking around the supermarket. He can't walk around with a paper bag over his head .That comes with the territory and its something you will need to adapt too, otherwise its going to spoil your relationship in the long term . You may have to reverse the psyche a little bit particularly when your in company with others  . Instead of feeling insecure and perhaps retreating, go onto the offensive. Show him off make the other jealous of your prize. In effect what your saying with your body language is "Hands off he is mine!  " That's the strategy I took when I was dating a minor celebrity model and found it to work and it should work for you .

March 07, 2020, 01:09:39 AM
Reply #2


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April 01, 2020, 01:23:40 AM
Reply #3


College days are one of those times where things become more available and opportunities start to grow,
Hence to why he could be receiving more compliments than usual because more than likely he is probably a great guy to be around and talk with..

You may have ongoing thoughts and concerns for your fellow boyfriend, feelings of insecurities are there most in likely because you may lack a certain degree of trust especially when he is constantly on his own in class.

The best thing to do is dig deeper in how confident you are, especially when it’s a thought of how much larger you could become if you said “I should be happy he’s getting compliments, he’s my boyfriend.” To yourself as well as continuing “All of these compliments can make our relationship bigger because I’ve come attached and strong to them.”

I’ve been in a similar situation where I began to question my partner but it’s more in how strong you really are and how much confidence you have deep deep down inside.

April 01, 2020, 02:29:01 AM
Reply #4


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