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December 01, 2019, 04:57:08 PM
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My husband and I went out drinking and met up with another couple. At the end of the night we was really drunk and been to three different bars.  It was almost closing time.  My husband and the wife of the other couple where up at the bar ordering more beer before closing time.  I went to the bathroom.  She was twerking all night with strangers and being a little flirty.  A song came on and like all night long while at the bar she backed up to my husband and butt up on his body and his hand was down there and he grabbed her butt.  I saw the whole thing when I came out the bathroom.  My husband looked up like a deer in headlights.  He admitted to grabbing her butt on the way home and apologized and said it was a stupid thing to do.  He down played it at first and said he drunk from the moonshine, fireball shots and beer but then recounted and admitted he was wrong.  He does not agree that it was cheating.  I say it was and I want a divorce.  We do have a past of cheating about 10 years ago he cheated on my and I cheated on him.  but we both been 100% committed since then. 

December 02, 2019, 10:08:45 AM
Reply #1

Captain Black

My view is that whilst its wrong , I wouldn't call it cheating . Cheating IMO is having an affair or sex with another party or intention to do so  . To me this is a case of flirting gone badly wrong fuelled by alcohol and also technically Twerking is a form a dancing . So perhaps he does deserve a couple of nights in the Dawghouse and some grovelling to yourself but divorce I think is a tad OTT.

December 02, 2019, 07:09:22 PM
Reply #2


You have every right to be upset. If my husband had done this, I would be angry with him. It is disrespectful, but I wouldn't call it cheating.

I would chalk this one up as a one off drunken incident. He has to now put in some work to make it up to you. To make you feel you are his one and only. However, repeated behavior like this should be treated as a warning sign. 


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