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June 02, 2019, 06:13:23 PM
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So I am having trouble losing weight and it is really lowering my self esteem. Granted I know my bf loves me but I'm not the same size I was 8 yrs ago. Granted I've had 3 kids, but I didn't start gaining weight until I got on birth control and now I cant lose it. I see the way he looks at other women (not like he'll cheat) but the way he likes their body shape. Sometimes he makes comments that bother me and he says he's joking but I know he's slightly serious. I've changed my diet and have been working out. I'm drinking water and nothing seems to be working. Does anyone have an natural advice. I am not and/or can not take any type of weight loss pills due to a medical condition. Someone please tell me all your secrets because I'm really trying and am not seeing any results. I'm starting to get discouraged.  :'( :'(

June 09, 2019, 03:07:19 PM
Reply #1


in my opinion you should tell him that this comments and the way he looks at other women are hurting you, he should appreciate you the way you are!

June 14, 2019, 03:50:25 PM
Reply #2


While it's completely natural for guys to check out other women, it's also natural for you to feel uncomfortable with it. There isn't any shame in politely asking him not to do that around you. I'm also not sure what kind of comments he makes - are they about your body or about other women? Either way, it's okay to ask him not to.

Also, as far as weight loss goes, it seems like you're making a good effort but if you don't explicitly count calories you're not going to lose any weight -- it's simple math, if you eat fewer calories than your body burns in a day, your body will use its fat stores for the extra energy and you will lose weight. The Reddit "Loseit" forum quickstart guide is a great way to start with that: https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/wiki/quick_start_guide

But you really need to talk to your husband if his behavior is making you uncomfortable.

June 15, 2019, 06:39:08 AM
Reply #3


In my op about his behaviour i would probably ask if he's checking them out, or just looking who passes by, even if that's a man. My bf always look whoever passes just to see if that's someone we know or sth like that, and we often make jokes of people who pass by us  ;D . Just ask him what bothers you, but don't accuse him, maybe it's not what it looks like :) . About losing weight, drinking a lot of water does really help, and workout, there are also tutorials on youtube, many people find them helpful. Look them up and don't give up or be disappointed if you don't see results in a day, keep doing your procedure. In my case of losing weight i saw the minor result in 20 days, but then doing it consistently it gets better, and less time is required. Also count calories like it's said in previous reply, and tend to eat cooked food more than fried food and more than sweets. Good luck :)

June 16, 2019, 10:57:11 AM
Reply #4


Hm.. I say you just do whatever you think is best, and even if you don't feel like exercising rn, no need to force it, whenever you feel ready. Who cares what he thinks, i mean sure, be pretty for him too, but if he can't accept your every state, he doesn't deserve the best one. Or maybe ask him to go exercise together, that can help sometimes.


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