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February 14, 2019, 07:08:06 PM
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Gocubbies86


 So my boyfriend gets very jealous if I have any male friends. Stating “all men are dogs”. But he is allowed to have female friends who he talks to , hang out with and go to lunch with. Last night I tried to plan a romantic evening at home for us, mid date night he takes a call from one of those female friends and proceeds to talk for around 20 minutes. I flipped out. Am I overreacting???

February 14, 2019, 07:40:10 PM
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JNelmondo


You aren't overreacting.

If you'll permit me being blunt...

He's projecting his insecurity on you.

It's the insinuations that get me. If I have a partner who says "women are all dogs" (I'm male) then the conclusion I'm going to come to isn't that women are all dogs, it's that she's saying that I am unable to control myself. As if we have no control over cheating or not. Please.

It sounds more like he's saying that he doesn't trust himself, so by extension he can't trust you. Again, I feel like he's just projecting a whole world of hurt on you.

Regarding his shrugging off the romantic evening. Well, he took you for granted the moment he started treating you like a possession.


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February 16, 2019, 04:29:55 PM
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zombiepop


I was in a similar relationship for 6 years. I let it drag on way too long. You need to talk to him about this, and if he isn’t willing to change, then leave him. That sounds toxic to begin with and I’d hate for anyone to go through what I had to.

February 16, 2019, 09:19:40 PM
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cheyh93


You’re not overreacting, you have the right to be upset if he gets upset about you having male friends. He should trust you with having male friends. It’s a double standard to tell you not to have male friends and he still talks to girls. This sounds unhealthy

 

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