Author Topic: I stopped loving someone who doesn't care?

soonbride26 · September 12, 2018, 08:59:39 AM

I had a long-time boyfriend. We were almost six years and was planning to get married. We already started building our house. But everything turned into ashes and I never regretted that it happened. I always dream to walk in the aisle while he is waiting for me at the altar. However, during our almost six years ride, I realized that it was only I who tried so hard to let our relationship work. I was the one who did efforts and sacrifices. I forgave him a thousand times for hanging out in nightclubs with different women from USA. I always caught him still exchanging messages with his ex-girlfriend. He lies to me countless times. I had become so blinded by what I thought was love. The moment I woke up from that nightmare, I knew I have done enough and I should stop. I am so glad I did. I know I have done something great for myself and I am proud of myself.

goodevening · September 12, 2018, 04:32:07 PM

Quote from: soonbride26 on September 12, 2018, 08:59:39 AM

I had a long-time boyfriend. We were almost six years and was planning to get married. We already started building our house. But everything turned into ashes and I never regretted that it happened. I always dream to walk in the aisle while he is waiting for me at the altar. However, during our almost six years ride, I realized that it was only I who tried so hard to let our relationship work. I was the one who did efforts and sacrifices. I forgave him a thousand times for hanging out in nightclubs with different women from USA. I always caught him still exchanging messages with his ex-girlfriend. He lies to me countless times. I had become so blinded by what I thought was love. The moment I woke up from that nightmare, I knew I have done enough and I should stop. I am so glad I did. I know I have done something great for myself and I am proud of myself.

I am so sorry to hear that you're going through this, that doesn't sound nice, at all.

When did you split up with him?

Have you tried moving on? If not, you need to. Hang out with your friends, do things that you like, surround yourself with positive people ... keep yourself busy!

Everything happens for a reason and this relationship ended for a reason, in time you will figure out where (maybe you will meet the man of your dreams and then realise that your relationship with your ex wasn't perfect after all!).

Always here if you need a chat.

soonbride26 · September 13, 2018, 10:25:35 AM

It's alright. We broke up few months ago and I'm fine. I shouldn't let negativity to drown me. That relationship was already toxic since it started so, it's okay. Thank you so much for such great words.

goodevening · September 15, 2018, 06:27:07 PM

Quote from: soonbride26 on September 13, 2018, 10:25:35 AM

It's alright. We broke up few months ago and I'm fine. I shouldn't let negativity to drown me. That relationship was already toxic since it started so, it's okay. Thank you so much for such great words.

No problem @soonbride26 , we're always here if you need someone to chat too.

Tinashurt · October 24, 2018, 06:22:51 AM

Sorry to hear this o am gping through same thing

missg · October 24, 2018, 10:15:08 AM

Quote from: Tinashurt on October 24, 2018, 06:22:51 AM

Sorry to hear this o am gping through same thing

what are you currently going through @Tinashurt - welcome by the way and sorry to hear this x

nx2172 · October 28, 2018, 01:43:17 PM

I am so sorry you had to go through this. You sound like such a strong person. You definitely deserve way better, I wish you the best of luck.

sandythecat · November 20, 2018, 04:54:29 PM

Quote from: soonbride26 on September 12, 2018, 08:59:39 AM

I had a long-time boyfriend. We were almost six years and was planning to get married. We already started building our house. But everything turned into ashes and I never regretted that it happened. I always dream to walk in the aisle while he is waiting for me at the altar. However, during our almost six years ride, I realized that it was only I who tried so hard to let our relationship work. I was the one who did efforts and sacrifices. I forgave him a thousand times for hanging out in nightclubs with different women from USA. I always caught him still exchanging messages with his ex-girlfriend. He lies to me countless times. I had become so blinded by what I thought was love. The moment I woke up from that nightmare, I knew I have done enough and I should stop. I am so glad I did. I know I have done something great for myself and I am proud of myself.

Hey there. I'm sorry you have to go through that. I hope you know that you deserve somebody who treats you right and is willing to do equally the same efforts to work the relationship out.
You have made a great decision for yourself and know that this decision will affect your life. Being married with a cheater is not going to be pleasant. In order to move on quickly I suggest you to surround yourself with positive people, do things you love especially the ones you can't or won't do when you're with him. The right person will never have the chance to be in your life when he's in it. So for the time being enjoy your time, love yourself, and use the efforts and works you used to do for him to set you on top. Hope this helps

Moonchild · December 07, 2018, 10:35:06 PM

Hey there, I am sorry to hear this... I feel sometimes whatever happens, happens for best.. it's good that you stopped yourself from putting in anymore efforts towards this relationship.... Try to move on with life... Someone better who deserves your love and loyalty is out there...

Stuckinlove · December 29, 2018, 07:51:16 PM

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I realized that it was only I who tried so hard to let our relationship work. I was the one who did efforts and sacrifices. I forgave him a thousand times for hanging out in nightclubs with different women from USA. I always caught him still exchanging messages with his ex-girlfriend. He lies to me countless times. I had become so blinded by what I thought was love.

I am sorry you are going through this. But so glad you figured this out before it was too late. It's amazing how everything we know is wrong becomes justifiable when we are in love.

Keep up the good work and find what makes you happy aside from being in a relationship.

MissAnon · January 12, 2019, 09:07:56 AM

I'm sorry you went through all of that. A one sided relationship is not healthy.

Ultimately, I'm glad you were able to get out of the situation before you were married to him.

I hope you have a brighter future ahead of you, and I wish you the best of lick!

Drcgg · January 13, 2019, 03:09:46 AM

It takes 2 people for a relationship if there's no effort from the other party then your better of single, some men & women take each other for granted.
Good for you for realising the problems early! Good luck in the future.

winstonjack · January 13, 2019, 03:56:25 PM

I applaud your courage. If he comes running back, please ignore. He'll never change - maybe temporarily because men always want what they can't have, but once he has you, he'll go back to his old ways. There is real love waiting for you -- that will appreciate you for you. Good luck!

shellshock283 · January 14, 2019, 04:44:03 PM

I know the feeling of what you went through. Sometimes we get so blinded by our own love, we can’t see how it’s not being returned. And many times when this happens, we get taken advantage of since we are so eager to give anything we can to the one we love. I am just getting out of a bad marriage where this actually happened. He was using me for what I could do for him, not because he truly loved me. Someday we will meet someone who will truly appreciate it and give us the same in return.

ldrennan · January 17, 2019, 12:07:34 PM

I think although it was saddening that that happened to you, you made a really good decision. The same thing happened to me except with someone I dated for 2 years and it was in high school. I realized I was just trying to make the relationship fit the idea of love I had in my head, but with the totally wrong person. The entire time I was too terrified to admit that he wasn't the one for me, but one day it literally just happened like that. I stopped feeling the way I used to for him and it was my senior year, I realized it was extremely one sided and I just wasted two years of my highschool isolated and abused.

I don't know what you went on to do afterwards, but I certainly hope your life changed for the better as well and you got what you were looking for. It's a huge step to walk away from something like that, I'm proud of you too.

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