Hello all! My name is Iva I am 25 years old and I am from Bulgaria. I have an really big issue and I dont know what to do. I know that you people cant help me, but I want to talk to someone, because I feel really sad, confused.. I had a boyfriend, we have been together for 3 years. At the begining of our relationship he told me, that before he have been fantasing about men and sex with them. We talked, I was glad that he told me this and we get to the conclusion that this was a phase for him, because he love me now and he wants to be with me. Everything was great, he was really caring, romantic, loving.. He propose to me, I said yes..  And after a few months I came from work early and I found him wearing my thong.. I know how this is sounds, like a movie, but I swear that its true.. So he told me that he love me, he wants to spend all his life with me, but these desires are part of him and he cant overcome them. I was feeling like shit, betrayed, so I decided that I dont want to be with him anymore and I left him. Since then it has been a year. At first he tried to have me back, maded a couple of romantic suprises for me, but I was stone cold.. And then he stopped trying to get me back. Right now I have a new boyfriend, but my ex searched for me again 2 weeks ago. He said, that these desires for men came back, he said that he wears girls thongs daily now and sometimes when he is at home alone, even dress, leggings, bra and etc.. And he said that he even make a blowjob to some guy and thats happened before we meet, so actually he lied to me back then, I mean he didnt tell the whole truth. He wanted/want my help. He doesnt know what he is and what to do... I think he is gay for real, but I am not sure and I dont want him to be... I imagine my life with that man, to have build a family and have kids and now... I want to help him, but I dont know how.. I know you people cant hep me, but I just wanted to say it somewhere..

Oh... Well, you have a point. But I already let it go. I mean, I have new boyfriend now, but I feel sad for my ex, thats why I want to help him. And I am not sure that he is gay, I mean its complicated. It kinda hurts me and I will  feel really bad, if he really ends up gay.. If you want, share your experience, cause its seem you had something like mine issue here.

The only thing you can do in this situation is to admit that he is indeed gay. You don't have to convince him otherwise, you are simply wasting your precious time. Just let it go and ask him not to interfere with your personal life. Advise him to look for a partner on a dating site. Perhaps he will find there someone with whom he will be happy.
Letting go is difficult, especially if you were married. But after filing for divorce in NC, life doesn't end. You will definitely be loved, give yourself a chance!