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Author Topic: I have a high sex-drive and my boyfriend doesn't

February 09, 2020, 08:51:41 AM
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My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. At the beginning of our relationship he wanted sex all the time! My sex drive is kinda related to how much I'm on love with him so it was pretty normal at the start of out relationship but as I fell more in love I just can't get enough of him. Ideally I'd want sex everyday but when I ask him why he's never in the mood he acts like he doesn't know what I'm talking about. He says he'd love to have sex everyday too but really we barely have sex once a week and then I usually don't get to orgasm.

I'm absolutely crazy about him but when I start being all lovey dovey looking for sex he pretends not to notice and ignores me until I get really upset and usually cry. I developed depression while we were beginning our relationship and I really need some sort of touch connection with him to feel like I'm not just really unattractive. He says he understands and I ask him for some sort of middle ground, like if he could just initiate a shoulder rub every weekend or just sit and kiss me for a long time instead. He always agrees but then because I need him to initiate it so I don't feel like I'm inconveniencing him, it never ever happens. Like the next day he will just feel like it wasn't really an important request and no be bothered about it.

I think he thinks I'm fine and that his actions have nothing to do with my self-esteem but I love him and want to stay together forever so it's really important to be that I find some kind of compromise.

Does anyone have any advice? I don't push him for sex but I feel like I really need that physical connection in some other non-sexual way at least and he can't empathize with that.

p.s. He's actually great for hugs and cuddles but for me that's just missing the attention part, like hugs are for his own comfort but I need him to be excited by my body somehow, or at least appreciative.

February 20, 2020, 11:36:35 PM
Reply #1


Women may think they get horny but they don’t. They don’t have the testosterone levels for a physical dependence on sex. They do however get starved of attention and affection and use sex as a means to an end. If they have an orgasm then all the better.

Men get bored of their partners after they have been with them a long time in terms of sexual stimulation. Men are not really designed for monogamy. We are designed for sexual variety and parallel relationships. It doesn’t mean we don’t care about our partners. It just means that the same partner does not maintain their sexual value with us. This is regardless of how good looking the female is.

I don’t have a solution to this problem but this is why men who are generally considered the more sexual gender lose sexual interest in their partners. It comes from a caveman instinct to inseminate as many girls as possible. This need is not met in a monogamous relationship.

February 21, 2020, 01:48:38 AM
Reply #2


There are only 2 reasons for this.
First, he is in active parallel interaction with someone else, and is bored with current relationship.
Second, your sex is boring.

Thats it.
Editor on real place for relationships

March 07, 2020, 12:33:01 AM
Reply #3


hi gal, I was in your shoes before. and here's an article that really helped me when I was struggling at the bottom.
I hope it could give you some enlightenment and inspiration like it helped me  :)


wish you have a great future with your loved one.

March 21, 2020, 06:16:25 PM
Reply #4


You definitely have to talk with him about that. There may be a million reasons for that behavior. Maybe he has some sex-related problems ? Have you ever had sex with him ? There are a lot of men that are suffering from erectile dysfunction. Maybe he is one of them ? I don't know what can you do in such situation. I think that you may use a really good kamagra, this drug is going to raise his libido, and it can really save your relationship. One of my friends is using it, and he said that it's pretty cheap and efective, so I think that you can try it.
« Last Edit: March 26, 2020, 07:13:06 PM by arnoldj1 »


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